... I am cakking myself at the moment because my mum is coming to stay/ live with me for an as yet unspecified period of time next month. She is currently living in Wales in a rented cottage and has been helping my sister with her 7 kids, now all sis kids are at school and I have 2 v young kids I want her to have a relationship with. So she is packing up and coming over my dh is being a saint to agree to this so kudos to him but I keep thinking what have i let myself in for.
I should explain that my um is on a tiny income (a widows pension) but as she is not pensionable age yet herself she gets very little in the way of benefits. You may ask quite reasonably but surely she can work - however she suffers from quite debilitating depression and has not worked officially since having me some 30 cough years ago. In Wales she supplemented her income looking after an autistic boy to give his mum (one of my sis friends) a break - so she is not without skills. But she finds it very difficult to manage her finances and cannot fill in forms etc. without lots of help. I know she is going to be a great help to me but I also know we are all going to find it difficult living together. But finding affordable accomodation is going to be much more difficult here (Bedfordshire) and housing assoc places seem to be in high demand. The aim is that she stays with us for a month or so until we find out how long a housing association place will take to find - and then go into private rental if necessary. The problem with renting is that the fees and upfront deposit etc. can add up to over a grand and mum has no savings so it is all up to us and as we have been hemorraging [sic] money since moving house this year we are not in a great position ourselves.
Does anyone have any experience in finding affordable accomodation or living with their mad but lovely mothers that could help?
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