How do u handle a tricky situation

[tomanyanimals]

I am currently pregnant and have not been very well as in I am constantly passing out.
Now I have a Ds from previous and my Dh has a daughter from a previous his ex has always been after him back he has no interest what so ever and I realise it says more about me than him but I want to look stylish and generally abit of a boost but I have always been very low maintenance how can I get myself to
one try and get it through my pregnancy head that he wants to be with me not her and he probably couldn't hate someone more than he does her, secondly to pull myself together abit to make abit more effort whilst feeling abit crap really.
I know it's very minor compared to a lot of people but the things she's been doing lately to try and get between us are really getting to me at the minute.
Sorry it's ramble hope you can make sense of it.

It's not very nice that he verbalises his 'hatred' for the mother of his first child!

To be honest, all this dressing up to compare well alongside his x at some event (?) just perpetuates the script that he's some prize that you won and she lost.

He's lucky to have you, right? I hope he's supportive to you while you feel crap, pregnant with his child? He might lose you if he's not a good father/partner afterall.

You just have to accept that actions speak louder than words. He's with you so that says alot.

What is she doing to annoy you?

He only says it too me never in front of his dd or anyone else I should of made that clear.
She tells his family lots of things that are made up about me, rings him when she wants an argument he's clicked to just put the phone down.
Shows up at my house in short skirts and full make up but only when she knows he home.
Constantly informs anyone who will listen that I am ugly and fat I was a size 8 prior to pregnancy and only have a belly now due to that.
I didn't have much self esteem before due to a lot of bullying in a previous relationship plus hormones I am extra sensitive.
I know it isn't a competition etc but I think if I had some tips on how I could help myself or handle it better? I wouldn't take it as hard especially as she is going to be a part of our lives until dd is old enough that we no longer need to speak to her regarding seeing her.