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Perspective needed please

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Coldsideofthepillow · 16/08/2014 02:33

Have name changed for this one obviously.

On Tuesday I went into hospital for laparoscopy, hysteroscopy and cauterisation of my cervix.

DP and I do not live together yet but he was able to take this week off to come with me, and look after me for the rest of the week for which I am very grateful. I would obviously do the same for him.
On the day he was wonderful, drove me there and back, made me comfortable, when I came round from surgery he had magazines ready so I wouldn't be bored etc (sucker for a celeb scandal)

Equally, when we got home -
ordered and picked up
takeaway and made sure I was comfortable.

Now, DP likes his sleep. A lot. We went to bed about 1am after me drifting in and out after anaesthetic, and I didn't get to sleep till 5. I woke at 9 and that was me up. I lay downstairs on the sofa watching shit tv waiting for DP to get up and help me change my dressing and also to help me shower.

He woke at about midday. When he got up he said he'd had a wank before coming down.

NOW. We are both very sexual people, we both masturbate yada yada and it's never been a problem

BUT!

When I'm sitting downstairs waiting for him to help me with my dressing and to shower AIBU? Because I went fucking loopy, literally screaming that he didn't care etc, totally out of my character. I don't really remember much about it which suggests the anaesthetic was still apparent but I was EVIL!! I remember sitting on the toilet thinking I'd never forgive him.

FF to Friday and we are fine, both apologised etc, he knows he was in the wrong and I maybe shouldn't have acted like my world was ending but still, could anyone give me an outside perspective of this please? It's not something I could ask my sister about after all....

TIA xxxx

OP posts:
Wrapdress · 16/08/2014 03:25

So The Wank made him head downstairs 10 minutes later than he would have? Don't think I would have cared.

Just generally sleeping until midday when he was on nursing duty - that's a bit uncool.

Vivacia · 16/08/2014 06:36

Did he know that you were waiting?

Mumof3xox · 16/08/2014 06:38

It would be more the fact he left you til lunch that bothered me

HappyGirlNow · 16/08/2014 08:34

Did you ask him to get up?

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