I offered my friend some money towards her IVF before we recently had a falling out. It is a pretty major one... she basically is completely self absorbed since TTC for the last three years and I have been so understanding along the way. I had a miscarriage and my partner was diagnosed with cancer.. when I finally needed her to care she didnt and I told her so. Her response was rude and completely immature. (there is more to story.. I had a miscarriage and she failed IVF in same week. Her main excuse for not contacting me was because of the failed IVF. That is fine but I was there for her even though I had a miscarriage a couple of days before. Her response was Whatever... )
Although I am mad with her, she has been my best friend for 10 years and I feel like I am still a woman of my word. We havent spoken since the fall out and I have no intention of doing so until she apologises properly.
Do I still send her money? I feel I want too but I don't want it to be viewed as me backing down from her behaviour. What would you do?
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What would you do? Major Dilemma
BadMother2014 · 15/08/2014 17:02
From the way you describe your feelings I think you are more likely to regret not giving her the money than giving it, regardless of what happens to your friendship.
You do sound like a very lovely friend, do be good to yourself. 
Sorry for your sad loss.
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