Advice people.. I'm a dad of 2 great kids (8 and 6), I'm resident parent and been in a relationship for 2 and a bit years with somebody who has 2 kids the same ages (2 boys 2 girls). Recently we moved in together and the kids have been great together. However I am asking for advice on two fronts - firstly I continually get a hard time from my OH as she thinks I favour my own children (ie buying my daughters birthday presents - as she says without her input on some of them) and treat them differently. The second part is that we are at continual loggerheads because I feel unappreciated for everything I do (looking after her and all the kids and working after an op, or running the kids everywhere or cooking all the meals) and she feels that I'm obstinate. The advice I'm looking for is that I'm met with aggression and resentment - with things being brought up from months ago - that I don't listen, that I don't make her my priority.. I'm starting to feel that its verging on emotional abuse??? I know I'm not always easy to live with - opinionated, blinkered etc but I have to ask myself am I in the right or in the wrong?