I've just asked my Ex if he would get back with me.

[MsBrunette]

He said 'I miss you everyday, I think about you everyday and I enjoy being with you. I don't know how I feel'.

How do I take that?

I have been asking him back for over a year now and he does tell me the sweetest things but this last text has confused me and I'm not sure whether I should say 'what do you mean?' Or if he is trying to tell me something that I'm not understanding.

Ok. You need to stop seeing him. He's yanking your chain and you're letting him.

This is not a nice man. He left you when you were pregnant, and now he strings you along, dropping morsels from his table when he feels like it. He gets to play happy families with none of the day-to-day responsibility. You're feeding his ego, nothing more.

I'm sorry, I know it's hard to hear, but you really need to wise up and get some self-respect. If he wanted to be with you, he would be. It really is as simple as that.

You've been asking for a year, if he wanted to be with you he would.

What on earth is your definition of a great guy?

You are feeding his ego. He has lovely days with you and your children and then he is free to do whatever he wants (and I really bet you don't get to hear half of that) while he fields texts from you begging him to come back.

He was stressed so left you in an incredibly hard and stressful situation. This is not what a nice bloke does.

Op you need to take a step back and wake up.
He left you when you were pregnant over a pathetic excuse at that.
It's been a year and he still is unsure? Sorry he's stringing you along and you have fell for it.
You love the idea of being a family but it doesn't seem like he wants the same as you. You deserve much better than this.

Op, you're a sucker.

This man is not a good person. He ditched you when you were pregnant.

You may love him. He doesn't love you.

He doesn't want to be with you.

You need to get some pride. Stop asking him back.

Head up, chest out and onwards past this sorry bloke. He's not good enough for you.

Thank goodness your dcs can rely on you instead of this weakling that is their father.

Although your dcs must get pretty confused when you're playing happy families at the whim of your ex.

Go out on a date with someone else.

Start living a little instead of hanging around like a pathetic wet blanket, waiting for this particular man to decide whether he wants you or not.

It is really not attractive.

a year?

If he wanted to be with you - he would be.

It sounds more like he doesn't want to tell you that there's no chance because he likes the ego boost of you having your whole life on hold waiting for him and begging for him back and quite likes having a plan b. Either that or he fears that telling you it's a certain no will put an end to this cosy weekly set up he's got of playing families before going back to his nice single bloke life.

You think he's been celibate for a year? come on.

He walked away when you needed him the most. You want that person? The one who can up and leave because poor diddums is finding real life cramps his style?

He knows you want him back--this is a huge ego boost for him, he snaps his finger and you go running.
He left you while pregnant. Please face it--he is not a Prince, just a very ugly toad.
Stop spending time with him after his contact. It is time for you to draw the line in the sand and move on.
HE DOESN'T WANT YOU.

Time for you to grow backbone and stop being so desperate.

He left you when you were pregnant cos HE was stressed??!!

Who was it who said "When a man tells you who he is, listen" or some such thing? Anyway it was someone very wise and you should take it on board.

Some men are gormless.
Maybe he does really want to get back with you. But........ how long will you wait for him, years? decades?

Perhaps you could say to him - do you want to get back together or not because I am going to start online dating as I don't like being on my own?

Giving him a sort of ultimatum. If there is no result give up and move on.

No, just greet him at the door next time he calls - pass him the children and tell him to bring them back tomorrow at noon because you're going on a date with a lovely new man.

Him leaving you when you were pregnant is who he is. Your family think that is perfect? You think that is the perfect man for you?

You are setting the bar waaaayyyyyy too low.

It's not what he says that matters it's what he does. He left you at a vulnerable time and hasn't gone back to you even though you've asked. This man is about as far from perfect as you can get.

You seem to think being stressed at work is a valid reason to abandon a pregnant wife?

If he hates his life as it is now, how come he's not begging you to let him come back? Because he doesn't want to.

You won't be able to move on whilst he's inside your head like this. You need to spend less time with him.

I have to say my DP leaving me while pregnant would be more than enough for me to fall out of love and switch my feelings off ... I'm amazed you didn't ...