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I'm an idiot!

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ProfessorPickles · 14/08/2014 16:24

I've been happily single for a good 6 months and I was really enjoying it not having anyone else to please, it made a nice change!

Everything was going fine until someone new started at work and now I am infatuated with him. I'm sat feeling sad and impatient because he isn't replying to my text, he makes me feel like a school girl Blush

I get so nervous around him at work, he's just so lovely!
The reason I am an idiot is that even if he said we should be together it would be a no as I want to be alone Grin

So basically I'm fed up because I like a man I can't have but even if he liked me I'd say no anyway! Can anyone see the logic in this?! I bloody well can't ConfusedGrin

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ProfessorPickles · 14/08/2014 16:47

Someone help me stop being so ridiculous ??
I want to be happy being single again!

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CogitoErgoSometimes · 14/08/2014 17:02

Just because you've opted to be single, doesn't mean you stop being a human being with emotions and a need for physical affection. You say you can't have him ... does that mean he's married or something else? If he's unavailable or attached what you're feeling for him is more like a crush on a distant, unobtainable film star rather than anything more substantial. Perhaps you're bored.

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ProfessorPickles · 14/08/2014 19:42

Where we work relationships between colleagues can result in losing your job, although it doesn't stop some! Grin
I think he fancies me so he says things that make me turn to mush, he's always hanging around me and making suggestive comments but not in a sleazy way!

I think you could possibly be right about the boredom, maybe I'm wanting some male attention?

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ProfessorPickles · 14/08/2014 19:45

He isn't married and hasn't got a girlfriend

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LittleBlueMouse · 14/08/2014 19:49

Is it worth losing your job for the thrill you get from a bit of flattery?

Tinks42 · 14/08/2014 19:52

OP this is going to be brutal but fair... he just doesnt fancy you! you fancy him and it's lovely to know you can do that but dont put it on him????

Tinks42 · 14/08/2014 19:53

the worst case scenario is he's a player,,, well do you want that? arent you better than that?

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ProfessorPickles · 14/08/2014 19:54

It's ok job wise for me because I'll be leaving soon as I've got a better job elsewhere.

Don't panic nothing's going to happen Grin
Like I said I want to be happy being single again, I hate having this silly school girl crush, it feels like a massive deal when like I said I don't even want him really!

I think I need a hobby Grin

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Fairylea · 14/08/2014 19:55

Tinks how did you get to the conclusion that he doesn't fancy her because he's not replied to a text yet? Confused.. wondered if I missed something.

Op if you're both single and there's a spark just enjoy it and see where it goes. No harm done :)

Tinks42 · 14/08/2014 19:55

he's a player! he's finding another "victim" is that you?

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ProfessorPickles · 14/08/2014 19:59

Why do you think he's a player? Not having a go, just wondering why!

I suppose I'd have to wait to see what happens once I've left and got my new job. If we keep in touch and want to keep seeing eachother then it'd be no trouble regarding losing jobs!

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ProfessorPickles · 14/08/2014 20:00

Regarding the texts also he's the phone who gave me his number and he usually texts me first!

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ProfessorPickles · 14/08/2014 20:02

He's the one that was supposed to say, he isn't a phone Grin

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tinks4 · 14/08/2014 20:13

If he spends quite a bit of time with you, is suggestive and has given you his number there's obviously some degree of interest.

If you're not after a relationship just enjoy the attention. I know myself the highs and lows of feeling like a schoolgirl again seem silly, but the highs can make you smile for days! You can still have a lot of fun just flirting.

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclinatio · 14/08/2014 20:17

Pickles loves the new boy
Pickles loves the new boy

Grin

Life's too short to arse around being single when someone lovely appears on the scene. Go for it ya numpty!

tipsytrifle · 14/08/2014 20:37

Why can't you be happily single and happily rolling in a meadow of summer wildflowers with a gorgeous hunk?

Desire is a wonderful, soaring state of mind; it's a creative energy. And you don't have to give up a thing to enjoy it.

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ProfessorPickles · 14/08/2014 20:56

Toomuchtodo- stop teasing you're making me blush BlushWink

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ProfessorPickles · 14/08/2014 20:58

Tipsy- you're right, sod it I'm gonna flirt my back side off next time I see him! Grin

It's funny because I went on a date with a gorgeous hunk about 2 months ago, to look at he was amazing and exactly what I go for but I didn't fancy him personality wise.
We now have a "new boy" Wink and he's the complete opposite of the hunk in every way and I'm head over heels and giggling like a teenager Grin

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FunkyBoldRibena · 15/08/2014 07:10

Ha ha, when I was much younger I really fancied the new boy and they had a sweepstake on how long it would take me to bed him. Your posts just took me way back! Happy days.

And readers, I did bed him. In about a fortnight. I held it in quite well. We did bad things in the stationary cupboard one Saturday as well. Grin

WildBillfemale · 15/08/2014 07:31

Stop with the bloody texting - it's no way to communicate properly. Texting is for 'I'm running late be there in 10' or 'can you get some milk on the way home' it's not for real communication.

Here's a thought.....talk to him!

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ProfessorPickles · 15/08/2014 08:54

Funky - get you! Grin Bet he was enjoying his new job then haha.

Wild- I agree the texting needs to stop, I hate texting. I'm not going to text from now on it really is a bad idea because it uses up all of your talking points for one then when you see eachother there's less to talk about

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yougotafriend · 15/08/2014 09:33

I was on an interview panel for a placement student - this guy walked in and the sexual chemistry was immediate - I was 36 and married with 2 kids (he was 20) so actually argued for another candidate cos I was worried about working with him. I've honestly never felt anything that strong before or since.

Anyway, I lost my argument and he got the job - it was a year of torture - nothing happened but everyone in work knew that we fancied the pants off each other.

My kids were quite young at teh time and I think half of it was that a young hot guy saw me as a desirable woman where everyone else I knew seemed to think of me as wife/mum. He went back to Uni after a year and my hormones slowly settled down!!

Aaarrr the memoires tho.......

MysteryMan1 · 15/08/2014 09:55

Relationships and affairs are all too easy at work..enjoy! I have been there and done that a couple of times ;)

Tinks42 · 16/08/2014 23:06

If you see someone face to face then they should just ask you out? whats with the texting? My feelings on it is as I said previously, he's enjoying the attention.

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ProfessorPickles · 17/08/2014 00:03

I also like the attention, it's all good Grin

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