I am posting here as I need advice for a friend and currently I am feeling utterly useless.
My friends husband of 9 years has just left her.
He has been having an affair (he says for 9 months but we think it is probably countless affairs for many years and from thing she has discovered on his laptop also probably using prostitutes)
He has not been paying the mortgage so her home is being repossessed.
He has not paid her car insurance so she has just received a court fine, he has not been paying the council tax.
We are assuming that he has not been paying all the other household bills but she is having difficultly finding out.
He was in control of all the finances because she is deaf and finds it difficult to speak to people on the phone so he offered 'kindly' to sort all the household finances out.
She has other physical conditions that mean she is sometimes unable to work. She had a part time job here but she has had to leave to move away. She wants to work but if her disabilities flare up they stop her being able to move.
He has been physically and emotionally abusing her for years.
I am ashamed that I had no idea - they seemed so happy and we counted him as a really close friend.
She has had 2 hours speaking to the CAB but she is in an absolute tizz and every time she gets post another bombshell is dropped.
He is behaving like nothing has happened and that they have just had a bit of a falling out and sounds surprised when she calls him to ask him why bills haven't been paid.
What can I do to help her - who does she need to speak to to give her advice on how to move on - she is in her 50's so she is pretty worldly wise but he has broken her and I don;t know what I can do to help.
Tea and chocolate is working for some part but I want to be able to give her advice.
Sorry for the long long post thank you for reading if you got this far.