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How can I come to terms with her getting away with it all?

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saltnpepa · 14/08/2014 08:30

To cut a long story short I have a sister who is insanely jealous of me and hates it when I'm happy or even worse, if I am celebrating. She caused a major drama on my wedding day and cast a big cloud over it. Some family members told me to go nc with her after that and I was generally supported in the family and didn't see her or talk to her for a couple of years. Then when I had my first baby she came and did the same thing all over again, caused a major fight in our house, family members in tears, me in absolute bits. I will never get over how anyone can try to destroy anyones most happiest moments in their life and so I am now nc and feel better for it although this has meant my children have lost contact with a big part of their family, cousins etc.

Thing is her son is about to get married and the whole family are looking forward to a lovely wedding day which of course I will not be attending. I am just so angry that she gets to enjoy her sons wedding, that her family have a wedding day that goes celebrated and not destroyed, that she can waft out of all this destruction to get the wedding day for her son that she wanted while she ruined mine. I can imagine now when he has a baby how the whole family will be there enjoying that precious moment when mine was practically ruined.

How on earth can I stop feeling so bitter about it? I am being consumed by the injustice of it.

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Clutterbugsmum · 15/08/2014 11:54

But it was my wedding day sad I can't get that back. No you can't. But you could re new your vows with her present.

You could either do this at home or abroad with just the people who love and support you.

springydaffs · 15/08/2014 13:19

WITHOUT her present I assume you mean clutter!

Your family are enabling her. My family similarly expects me to nail myself to a cross for the family 'peace' - which is anything BUT peaceful for me Angry

Let them lay human sacrifices at her altar [bible imagery alert] to appease her if they like , you don't have to join in. The wedding debacle really hurt you, go with that.

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