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Dating, anyone have any good stories.

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gottafindaman4yagirl · 13/08/2014 10:09

Feeling really low, been using OD dating and apart from feeling like a faulty women after my failed marriage, I think my ex may have the right idea not being bothered when we split. I am absolutely rubbish when it comes to men or even relationships. I have confidence in my looks because i have always been told, mostly by my female friends, that I am good looking. But looks are not everything are they.

Feeling tearful, actually having a sob like a sad women.

Its like men see my pictures on OD and tell me I am Beautiful but once I try and chat they go silent off. I have a sister who men run after but i have no personality, just get comments like Lovely or sweet. Been reading books like Why men love Bitches and I think the authors got a point.

Messed up my last OD date, man was so eager to go on date, he was great but the next day the Lovely lady comment....I know hell do a little texting because I am nice and he wont want to be horrible and just block me.

My ex never really loved me, we had a baby very early in relationship and after we split after 14 years together, I did a lot of soul searching and realized I went from a abusive childhood home to a relationship that was dysfunctional because of my inner issues.

Two kids, one with issues that require me to be a carer and i feel lonely and pathetic for wanting a relationship for myself. But who is going to want to get involved with me.

Think i'm just having a wobble, had too much to drink at weekend messed up on a chance of a second date, i had to stop drinking because I was using wine at the weekend to numb my loneliness at weekend when boys went to their dads.

Has anyone in a similar situation found happiness again ? Sorry to go on but feel close to bottom emotionally.

OP posts:
gottafindaman4yagirl · 13/08/2014 11:06

Would really like to get advice please.

OP posts:
FolkGirl · 13/08/2014 12:16

Come over to the dating thread, gotta.

You can have as many wobbles as you like over there Smile

FolkGirl · 13/08/2014 12:17

Oh and I think you'll find plenty of people there who understand your story, too.

streetfurniture · 13/08/2014 13:11

On line dating is not the easiest way of meeting people and you need to develop a thick skin. But the good people are out there. Stick with it, it's natural to feel a bit down after a rejection but it will happen.

LividofLondon · 13/08/2014 14:27

"... I have a sister who men run after but i have no personality, just get comments like Lovely or sweet..."

What do you mean by "no personality"? That you have nothing interesting to talk about?

Xenadog · 13/08/2014 17:31

OD is brutal and you need to develop a very thick skin to do it for any length of time. I found that when I had the most fun with OD it was when I was not looking for anything serious but just to meet a variety of men and had a number of dates to get myself back out there and socialising. No one date was loaded with any expectation and if a man didn't call or gave me the brush off I wasn't bothered or even really noticed as I had so many others lined up!

OP you sound a little fragile, TBH and I think working on your own self esteem might be good before you enter the minefield of OLD. There are lovely men out there and you sound great yourself but if you are putting up barriers or using alcohol as a crutch you aren't giving yourself the chance to meet Mr Right.

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