I've been friendly with a man for a good few years. We hit it off straight away and I got the impression that he quite liked me although he never made a move or anything. I had never thought about him in that way until about a month ago and now I can't stop thinking about him!
I'm a bit confused to be honest as I don't really understand how I can go from having no thoughts about him in a romantic/sexual way to fancying him like mad more or less overnight.
Anyway now that I do like him how do I work out if he likes me or whether it's just his way to be a bit cheeky and overfriendly? I did think he liked me, but am now wondering if it's just wishful thinking on my part. I don't want to mess up our friendship if I am wrong.
We have had banter for a long time, always initiated by him. He jokes about climbing through my bedroom window one night on a regular basis. I asked a favour of him and he said "is it sexual", I said no and he pulled a disappointed face. There's been plenty of other innuendoes and such like. I should point out that he's only ever done this in a cheeky, jokey manner, in no way has it come across as sleazy.
He stands extremely close to me, totally in my body space. On the couple of times he's sat on my settee he has sat that close to me that his legs have been touching mine. He got hold of my mobile number, texted me about something that he'd helped me out with and put a kiss on the end.
He comes round to see me about things that don't really seem to necessitate a visit and always wants to help me out with things, but he may just be friendly and helpful.
The vibe I get from him is that he likes me, but as he's not made a move does that mean that he's not interested? Maybe as I hadn't flirted back he didn't think I was interested or maybe he just likes the banter. How do I work out if he likes me without making a prat of myself?