Will things get better?

[ButterflyInFlight]

Hi everyone,

I posted this on chat yesterday but no one replied. I am feeling so down and stressed with my situation so any advice is appreciated.

I am so grateful that I have a reasonably job and a roof over my head. However, I am really frustrated. DH has been out of work for 6 months as he moved from London to come and live with me in the middle of nowhere.
He can't find a job and has applied for lots and lots! I am becoming really frustrated because money is so tight and he is so stressed because he can't find work.
He moved to me because I had accepted a really good job with good prospects. I thought it would be best for our future and cheaper than living in the city.
We have obviously had a chat about our feelings but I just wanted to share with someone else. I can't tell any RL friends/relatives as they will judge and say "Ohhh he isn't looking hard enough etc."
Has anyone else been in this situation? Will things get better one day?
Sorry for having a moan. I know I am so lucky that I have a job that allows me to pay the mortgage/bills but I just needed to vent.
Thank you in advance for your replies x

Vent away.

I was in a similar position where my husband moved to be with me but he found a job here first. Is him going back to London maybe an option till things improve? Could you help get him work at your place?

Thanks for your reply, gamerchick. Unfortunately, neither of those are options. I wish he'd have secured a job before he moved here but with his career experience/previous roles we both thought he'd get a job over here.

Did things get better for you? That's my main worry. I just don't want to be stuck in this shit rut for the rest of my life :/

My OH was in and out of work for a few years, he probably had about 3-6 months solid work in the space of 4 years. I found it a lot harder than he did, even though I had a good job I still found it quite stressful being the only one earning. Everytime he got rejected for a job (and this happened A LOT) I took it as a personal insult. He was very optimistic and didn't let it get him down.

Now he has been in a job (very low paid job sadly) for about 2 years but things are a lot better.

Is there anyway your DH could take a temporary part time job while he is still looking? This is what my OH did and it helped immensely with confidence and sense of self etc.

You have my sympathy anyway I know how hard it is

Well it took a couple of years but he wasn't moving up without a job to go to so things have been fine to date.

I do agree with a part time job though.. it'll bring in a little bit of cash, he'll get to know more people and build his confidence up a bit.

How many agencies is he signed up with? He needs to tell them he is happy with full-time, part-time, permanent and contract work.
Could he go round all the local bars and restaurants and shops and ask for work?
Has he already done this?
Is London commutable at all for him?

He has signed up for 3 agencies but they have not offered him anything, which is soooo frustrating. We live 230 miles away from London so going back isn't an option. We want to go back in 3-5 years after the mortgage has been sizeably reduced.

Thank you for your replies, I feel less of a selfish moron to know others felt the same in this position x