How to help DD get over break up with boyfriend

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DD is 24 and has been with boyfriend for 3 years - they don't live together (she has her own place) but were very much a couple and it seemed they had afuture together.

Anyway last week he ended the relationship.

Its definitiely over and she's so upset - shocked, lonely, not eating, and feeling sick.

I Know she just has to go through it, but just want a few pointers on how to support her through the upset.

Any words of wisdom?

Oh the poor thing, it's so hard isn't it!

There's not an awful lot you can say really - just lots of reassurance, comfort, kind words and hugs to help her through it. Could you take her out for a meal, or invite her to yours for a night?

It's very easy to say that it'll be fine, she'll get over it etc, which is true, but it's still very raw and she's living in the moment. A week is not really enough time to take everything into consideration and start planning for the future. She's still grieving for the future she thought she was going to have with him.

It might help a little to remind her that the first few weeks she won't be able to think about anything else, or crying, or worrying about it. Eventually, she'll realise that she's spent a bit of time thinking about something else that day. Over time, she'll start spending more and more time thinking about other things, and less time thinking about the break up. Eventually she won't even think about the break up at all, because she'll have so many other great things happening in her life that she won't need to!

Bless her, give her a squeeze from me.

Thanks Jane

I have been there with my DD23, it is horrible to watch them go through it.

Everything that JaneFonda says above.

Maybe also when she has had a little more time you could help her to think and plan something that she would love to do, that is completely for herself.
It could be a travel plan, study, fitness goal; anything that she has always wanted to do but has put off, or wouldn't have considered while she was in the relationship.

My daughter signed up to do a sponsored sky-dive a few weeks after her relationship ended. She was terrified but loved it. It gave her a massive confidence boost and acted as a symbolic new start.

How bloody awful. Can you afford to take her away for a few days? It might give her something to look forward to and a different perspective?

Take some Chinese/pizza/ junk over with a girly film and watch and eat in ur pjs. :) always made me feel better xx