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Do I tell?

7 replies

Cwtchythings · 11/08/2014 11:26

Just wanted some opinions on what to do in my situation. I've just ended a relationship with someone as he completely disappeared and was ignoring my attempts to contact him, despite him being on Facebook etc.

The relationship was only a couple of months long, but he had been very full on, contacting several times a day every day, talking about next year, asking me to go on holiday with him to the point I had to slow things down. I was perfect for him, blah blah. Everything was fantastic until bam! He vanishes..

After I ended the relationship he contacted me and told me he just needed space and that nothing had been wrong, and then tried for a few nights to get me to go to his for sex...I woke up one Sunday morning to a picture of his cock! Which was the point I blocked his number haha.

Anyway, it turns out there is another girl involved and there seems to have been some overlap here. She seems lovely and has no idea of this I don't think. Her ex husband left her for somebody else and she's had a rough time, so I feel awful that she doesn't know this was going on.

Should I let her know only 2 weeks have passed since all of this, or just leave things be? I would want to know I think, so I could be extra cautious- they both have children. I'm not looking for revenge, I just feel really bad for this woman. I don't know her at all and it's easier not to say anything, but that makes me a bit uncomfortable really.

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Quitelikely · 11/08/2014 11:29

Hmmm I don't think you ended it - he did but forgot to tell you.

Tbh I would keep out of it. Nothing to do with you now. If he pesters you again you could always say contact me again and I will let Xxxxx know what you're up to.

BinarySolo · 11/08/2014 11:38

He sounds like a prize dick. Difficult to say whether there was any cross over since he broke off contact with you.

Personally, if not get involved. It would just sound like sour grapes from you to the new woman anyway as you don't know eachother.

Just be grateful he's someone else's problem now.

AnyFucker · 11/08/2014 11:40

No, you will simply be painted as the mad dumped ex

Cwtchythings · 11/08/2014 11:52

Ok thank you! Yes you are right, I was well and truly dumped but it felt good to tell him where to go anyway :) I've learnt a few lessons from this shady character so I'll leave it there.

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AnyFucker · 11/08/2014 11:52

Onward and upward !

Ivehearditallnow · 11/08/2014 11:57

Meh - I might send her a quick line. Nothing dramatic. If I was her, I'd want to know. Solidarity x

Ivehearditallnow · 11/08/2014 11:57

PS hope you meet someone nice! x

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