husband giving me an ultimatum

[littlechick30]

Me and my hubby are from different areas im irish hes Welsh. Living in ireland have a gd relationship with my parents. But he is wanting to move bk home. I feel like I should for him but his family always make a drama and always falling out with hubby . Really don't want my baby having that crap in her life. Scared of change ... help

He is being unreasonable atm. But I know its cause hes unhappy and just wants a fresh start. My problem is I have a child that comes first and there is a support network here that I can trust and wont run me or my hubby down when my babys older. His family have not made any effort in coming to see our baby in her 5 months of being here not even a skype call which just makes me sad and angry coz they have missed out.

My fear is they will b the same when we move so it will all b for nothing. One if us is going to loose out coz of the diff countries.

I need to get a bit of advice on things and talk to each other about it all proprly when hes calmed down.

I dont want to throw our marriage away without properly talking things out. Just wish sometimes things could be straight forward without all the drama

The residency issues would've enough to turn me off the idea to be honest - it is possible that even if you split up you wouldn't be able to return to Ireland with your child. It is feasible that you could be a single parent but without your family to support you.

OP

My ILs have called 3 times in the ten years we have been abroad. They called once when we lived an hour's drive away from them, and then it was only to tell DH off for not having phoned them.

Some people are only interested in their own lives. Those people don't put themselves out to Skype family who don't live on the doorstep or to make an old fashioned phone call to family living two streets away.

You are already justifying him.
How do you know for sure he's being unhappy and not simply a selfish stonewalling dick?
He wants you to move near an unsupporting (in fact probably disruptive) family and away from your support. That's how abuse starts and I can predict you'll be desperate within a year of moving.
I'd bet his family are pushing him.

The best you can do for yourself and, more importantly, for your child, is to stay put. And let him go if he wants to.