do you think she was having a pop?

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Mil recently made the mistake of slagging me off in front of my dc. On mothers day of all days when my mums anniversary was that month too. Since than I have diistanced myself as much as possible.
We have 4 dc, 3 school aged and an unplanned toddler. Dh was as useless as a chocolate teapot in ds 1st year. As a result I have coslept and I am still breastfeeding. Mil has made it quite clear that ds no longer needs breastfeeding.
Whenever, we visit ds is quite clingy and will often breastfeed. Mil will say you don't need that.
Anyway in the last visit I didn't go.
Mil made point of saying what a different child Ds is without me. So independent.
Can't help feeling she was having a pop at me.
I suspect I am oversensitive but given the history.
Also I really just can't trust her as she also slags others off in front of me.

I suspect she is having a pop. She is uncomfortable about the bf and is implying it is bad for your Ds

Sometimes children pick up on adult interactions and the stress you understandably feel around her may make him feel anxious and clingy to you. i wonder if that is what is going on when you are with her.

But how do you know what she said? Did your DH recount it and why?How is the relationship with your DH now, and how does he feel about the BF? Is he indirectly telling you that he disapproves of it?

I was also going to ask how do you know what was said if you weren't there? Its a strange thing to be repeated back to you given how you feel.

Children frequently behave differently when a parent is not about. My DD's DP's DS is totally different when one or the other of them is not about. I've mentioned it to DD how different he was, much more vocal and less shy. It certainly wasn't a pop at anyone.

Dh mentioned it in passing.
Original episode was recounted by dc.

Not sure why he said it. (Dh)

I'm sure she was having a pop, but if you don't have to see her (and you don't, DH can take the kids or not as you choose) why do you care? Let her have all the pops she wants. She'll stop doing it if she sees you don't give a shit.

Your mil sounds like a pita. Nothing worse than doing your best for your dc and someone telling you they think you are doing it wrong. She should mind her own business.
I had the same with my youngest. No help from dh who 'needs his sleep' and annoying remarks from his unhelpful parents about my still feeding dd as a toddler. Really boils my piss. All very well offering their helpful comments different story night after night when you are on your own.

Tbf yes I think dh does think I should stop but he now depends on it for far more than nutrition.
I know I shouldn't let it bother me but strangely I do. She is the only granparent too so I feel sad for dc. Not nice having granny saying bad things about mummy.

Although accept last episode not bad as such.

She's having a pop.

Let her pop as much as she likes. She'll soon pop herself enough to burst!

But make it clear to your DH that you know she's having a pop and you don't appreciate her having her digs in front of the dc.

She was having a pop.

Beware though, my mil used to emotionally blackmail her dgc and it was really creepy.

She would say things like " no, dgs, I don't think you should go to xxx, I know your mum said you could but nanna loves you and I want to keep you safe" or "xxx who do you love more? Your df or dm" or mil falling out with SIL " xxx you know how much nana loves you don't you? Do you love me? You won't fall out with me ? Will you?" This was said to an 11 year old boy, on the phone while she was pissed in the pub. she actually had him in tears .

Her eldest dgc (18) has just gone no contact with her.

It's up to you how long you bf for and where your dc sleep, they are your children to parent not hers!

I'd be livid that she's slagged you off infront of your dc!