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Can a vicar/priest divorce after a long separation & can they date..

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lifestrangerthanfiction · 10/08/2014 19:27

..a woman who identifies as Christian but who doesn't actively practice? I'm not an atheist but not seriously religious, more bordering on agnostic. I do understand and respect christianity due to my family being active, but never in a million years did I think I'd be interested romantically in a priest/vicar (he's not English, but not a Catholic)! Shock

I've met him in a very informal setting, we've got on so well, really clicked I thought, some lingering looks from him too. I can't stop looking at his photos now Blush. Lovely sensitive guy.

Should I stop being silly and just not go there? I loosely invited him to visit me in the UK as his son lives here. I've been told (by friends) that he's been living separately from the wife for nearly 10yrs, different countries but no idea whether they do meet and what their relationship is like , but I think it's obvious that it's not a functioning marriage. I know that even in this case the vicars are not allowed to divorce.

Anyone had any experience/knowledge of this?

He did seem to be pleased that I suggested to meet here, so if he acts on it, I'd like to know whether to drop any hints/make moves, or should I stay well out?!

Sorry for the bizzare thread, can't discuss this with mutual friends.

OP posts:
One1 · 23/11/2020 11:40

Op, do not get fooled by the fact he is a priest. For all I know(personal experience) these are first of all MEN. And I do not say it lightly when I say most Eastern European orthodox priests choose their careers because they come with a good salary, parochial house and other benefits. It has very little to do with faith.
If he doesn’t live with the wife he won’t mind having a lady friend on the side , especially one that lives in a different country. I know it’s easy to romanticise based on a e few looks here and there, but do not let your shield down just because he is a priest.

Bunnymumy · 23/11/2020 12:11

Maybe he needed to move countries to get enough money at his job to support his family back home. Just seems odd that she wouldn't have pursued a divorce don't you think?

I'd be careful with this op. Just because a man is a priest, doesn't mean he is a good egg. Keep your guard up.

Also, you need to have the convo about your beliefs early on if it looks like it might go somewhere. Because it proper sucks getting into a relationship with someone who cannot accept your beliefs and constantly tries to step on them or impose their own on you.

nosswith · 23/11/2020 13:01

Zombie thread alert!!!

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