Feel like walking out....

[bluecitymum]

I have a 3 year old, a 3 month old and am currently off on maternity leave. My husband works long hours as he is aiming to become a partner. The short version is that I feel like a single parent! I am beginning to wonder if I might as well become one. After working all day Saturday and then going out drinking from 4pm to 2am, he then proceeded to lie in bed til midday waking up refreshed and confused why I was so upset. I am sleep deprived and as a result shouted at him! Now he feels he had the moral high ground because I lost it! What to do?

Good luck! Hope the chat is productive for you

Fuck that for a game of soldiers. The very least he should offer is one night a week where he does the getting up and then lets you have as long a lie in as you want (or you get the lie in the morning before IYSWIM). The very least.

Thanks to all for your kind words of advice, many of which I quoted during chat with dh! I explained that I felt at breaking point and am so alone with the dc and housework. I sat back and listened to his side of things, under pressure at work feeling guilty about not being at home etc. He wasn't shocked at how I feel just feels unable to give any more time. We have agreed to having a lie in each every weekend and for me to go out once a month. He apologised and said that he appreciates all that I do- that made me sob!
Big thanks for all your advice x

The joys of EBF means I have to do the night shifts! 3 month old won't take a bottle (yet, will keep trying).

Mamma, I quite agree - that's why I asked if they could afford some help with the chores so OP can have her fair share of down time too. I only meant that when you've worked long hours Mon-Fri, it's natural to think of weekends as down time - I was just wondering if there was a way they could ensure OP could have some too.

Yvyb, we can afford help and that was also discussed too. Good idea to ease the housework burden. Thanks

I'm really pleased, bluecity! You should be enjoying your family together, not collapsing under the strain of it. Do whatever you can to pass the grotty chores on to someone else and guard your free time fiercely! Hope you soon start to feel less pressured by it all :)