Losing all respect

[Stellarella123]

Me & dh have been together for 14 yrs, we have 2 kids under 7, he is lazy, needs prompted to do everything, he doesn't consistently take responsibility for the kids, house bills, housework, etc, he lives in his own bubble, and I have realised I the last year or so he doesn'tdo anything unless he wants to, he is selfish,
I know with young kids it's hard and I find myself seeing only the bad in him,
Yesterday out fora meal with friends he was hassling the kids to finish there food, I said I thought they had eaten enough, and he started an argument saying I'm undermining him constantly, I do feel like because half the time he doesn't care what the kids eat that he can't pick and choose when to be the boss, we are still not speaking because I refuse to just chat away like everything is fine. He embarrassed me In front of friends too

Well he's not going to change is he? Not much you can do about him unless you move on

Life's too short for his nonsense in my view

No I don't think he will change, It's just taking that step, or do we try counselling first? I do so much for our family, and I'm so unappreciated,

Mine is like this with regard to doing things around the house. I've to prompt him but one way to ensure stuff gets done, is if I do something too.

Nagging gets nowhere he just switches off.

What if you write a list of who does what?

That's the only thing I haven't done, I think I'm going to have to write it down, so it's there and he can't make out he forgot. I will try that thanks

Are you me? Honestly you're not alone. I'm not staying with mine forever the way he is now. I'm not actually sure whether he was always like this and I couldn't see it or if he's changed into a selfish horror slowly

He won't change, he's inherently lazy and disinterested in family life, you will always be resentful because he cant be that man you want, you either accept him as he is or expect more for yourself and move on without him holding you back and pissing you off.