I love DP but

[irnbru22]

I feel like I cant be with him anyone. We have only been together for a year and living together since 2 months in. I have told him repeatedly I don't feel any passion from him, he only ever says I love you if I say it first, he never initiates sex. We have a brilliant friendship and get on like a house on fire but we dont have the 'spark'.

I am (without seeming big headed) an attractive woman and I get a lot of attention from other men. This flatters me more than it would with most others who are in a relationship as I don't get an flattery/attention at all from DP.

I do know DP loves me as he is incredibly caring and takes care of me very well, but if I stay with him I fear it will just be out of convenience as I would have no where to go and have no money at the moment. I told him last night I wanted to split up and he said ok if thats what I want. This morning I asked are we not going to talk about this and he said hes lost for words and went out.

Its so frustrating as if we did have the spark/passion whatever this would be the perfect relationship. Its been brought up numerous times and never changes. Should I just cut my losses and leave now?

And what will we do, continue to live together (1 bed flat) until one of use can afford to move out, that will be earliest next feb?

If something's missing then your looking for something else IMO.

But please bear in mind that when you settle down, marry etc the passion and spark doesn't remain as it did in the first instance which is why it's called the honeymoon period.

Good luck

You've only been together a year and are not feeling it. It's fine to admit that and move on. Don't settle it's not worth it.

Move on - I wouldn't be in such a hurry to move in with someone after only 2 months either - you don't know them after 2 months

Did you ever feel passion and spark for him? If you did can you remember what it was about him that you loved? Maybe you need to talk to him about the things that he did that used to do it for you and see if you can re ignite the passion. Maybe he also feels the same way you do, that something is missing so it may be that you both have stopped trying to please each other.

Once again another person who dived in head first without even knowing the person. Why why why do women do this?!?!

What a helpful, kind and insightful comment bitoutofpractice.

10 months isn't exactly rushing it if you don't have kids, your own home etc.

So is it only 2 months that you have felt this lack of passion? Could it just be the "moving in" together thing that has changed it. Living with someone in the beginning can be difficult. You get to know all their habits and little ways and it can grate on you and annoy you.

Yeah you are probably right private. I was posting on the run and I've seen about a dozen of these in the last few days. I am finding them very frustrating but that's not the OPs fault. So sorry ??

Vivacia i read it that they lived together after 2 months. What's that? 10 dates? Nobody knows anyone in that time. Let's face it, This board is full of women who didn't know each other after 20 years!!

You might get lucky after 2 months no doubt there'll be MNers along any minute now to say they moved in after 3 dates and have been happily married for 20 years but after 8 weeks you are lowering the odds of a happy ending considerably.

And surely, the only reason for moving in after 8 weeks is a grand, all consuming passion. Not because you "get on". How odd!

So op kick him out. Or move out. Whichever is applicable. Clearly this situation isn't going to to change. Because he doesn't want it to.

He doesn't sound like he is fighting to keep you and that must be a litmus test in it's own right? Separate, move on, chalk it up.