OMG - SHOCKING DISCOVERY!

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Have changed my name in case anyone in RL recognises me.

My sister has just told me that our mother was adopted when she was 2 yrs old - she is now nearly 70 .

No-one else knows apart from Dad.

My sister was telling her she was going to research the family tree and she just said "Well you won't find much on myside because I'm adopted"

We are in shock - feel sad for my Mumbut she says it's never bothered her.

why feel sad for her - did she have a horrible upbringing? there will have been s good reason for it Iwould have thought going back 70 years as society was much different then.

I think you'll have to take her word for it, then. Perhaps let her know that if she does ever want to talk about it, you're there to listen.

Beatty - I feel sad because her adoptive father died shortly after the adoption so she never really knew him. Consequently her 'mum' had to go out to work and she didn't see a lot of her either. No brothers or sisters.

Can see why it's a shock for you but there's nothing to embarrassed about (assume that's why you've changed your name).

edam - not embarrassed, just that Mum doesn't want anyone to know apart from me and my 2 sisters so didn't want to be recognised!

Just feels a bit weird that my 'Nana' (passed away about 30 yrs ago bless her) wasn't my proper Nana IYKWIM. And also the possibility that Mum may have living parents or siblings!

Same happened to me. Found out last summer from my uncle (my mum's brother) that my nan wasn't my nan, she was my grandads second wife. My mums bm ran off with another bloke and left my mum with my grandad! Im still schocked but don't want to bring it up with my mum, she's nearly 80.

My maternal grandfather was a step-parent. My mother was evacuated during the war and when she came back she had a new father. Years later we found out that my nan had had a baby in between her two husbands with a third man, and put the baby up for adoption. This aunt traced us.

Why should it be a problem? My mum accepted her stepfather as a father and we accepted him as a grandad. It sounds like her birth father was a womanising drunk and no loss to any of us. It got so that we virtually forgot that grandad wasn't a blood relative.

As for our new aunt and cousins, the way we see it the more the merrier. She's lovely. It's just a shame my grandparents and mother were dead by the time she found us.

It's not a problem - my sisters and I are quite excited at the possible prospect of new' relations and proper aunts and uncles (Dad is an only child too).

All Mum has said is she would like to know where she was born. The thing that makes me sad is that she doesn't know who looked after her up to the age of 2 when she was put with her adoptive Mum.