Would you take the risk and say I love you first?

[Reinvent1yourself]

All in the title... Would you risk it? It's been three and a half months and I'm totally smitten not sure if my head could take it if he doesn't say it back though....

Tinks it was list but what I feel now is different.
But am going to wait I'm not the type of person who would take it well if he didn't say it back.

I told dh I loved him after about a month.

He asked me to marry him a month after that. We had know each other as friends though for 4 years before that.

We've been together 15 years now, and still say I love you a few times a day.

I look at it as though you are expressing a feeling. If they don't feel the same way atm, they may soon. Or not. It's still difficult being the first one to say it.

I did

I got 'I like you' in return

He wasn't long out of a LTR when we got together there was overlap and we've now been together 9 years and married 5

He says 'I love you' now

Im pleased you're going to wait a bit and you know yourself, as in you wouldnt take it well.... All the more reason to let him say it first.

I said it first to an ex.

He replied, in all sincerity, "I'm not sure if I love you, what's the criteria?"

We are no longer together and I've since found out that he has Asperger's Syndrome which now explains everything.

Given that the best relationships are built in honesty and trust, I don't think it's wrong to be honest with how you feel, in fact I think game playing and second guessing is harmful.

I did on date 3. I didn't care if he didn't say it back. I meant it.

He said "I love you too," that was 10 years ago. We've been married 4 years and have a DD.

So yes, go for it. He's the asshole if he doesn't say it back.

My husband told me after two weeks and he still claims it was love at first sight for him. It took me longer like a week

I don't agree with mummy that it makes him an arsehole if you tell him and he doesn't say it back. Some people feel it quicker, or maybe not at all, but that doesn't make someone an arsehole.

OP, I wouldn't worry. If he treats you well and you are having a good time just let it happen naturally.

I don't think the man should always say it first, it will come out when it is ready to. And anyway, don't most people say it during sex accidentally and then have that 'oh crap' moment incase they don't say it back? Or was that just me in the past?

I've never really understood how people say it during sex tbh. Maybe post coitalky when you're still in that lovely glowy few minutes but frankly even when I've been madly in love with the person I'm having sex with I've never thought about saying it during the actual act. I don't really make love though, I very much just... fuck

Post coitally that is...

U2 I meant if he never says it. Hypothetically of course.

He may not want to say it yet, and of course, that's fine.

I think if you feel it say it. There's this weird idea that men should get to decide when love starts.
It's not at all weird that you haven't said it to each other yet. People say it far too quickly! If you say it after a couple of months you must say it to every single partner! You can't truly love that many people...

Well I just fuck as well for the most part.

But you have never had an orgasm and screamed out I love you? I did it once with an ex and it didn't go down so well. I really meant that I loved my orgasm though

Not of I've got to ask Mumsnet first.