How would you feel....

[Onlyone40]

If your partner of 4 years who you had fallen head over heals in love with still text his ex wife on their wedding anniversary date to discuss the sad and happy times? How would you feel if he openly told you each time like all I am is a best mate to him? He says he loves me but I'm just not sure if he does

Your partner may need counselling to help him properly come to terms with the end of his previous relationship. Anyone who has been through divorce (and I'm one of them) can get a bit of a sinking feeling on the date of the anniversary as they experience regrets & sadness. But most of us would try to put it out of our minds, do something fun and not dwell on the past too much. If it's been four years and he's still texting about good and bad times and making a big deal out of it - to me at least - sounds like he's unhealthily stuck in regret/grief. That aside, it's insensitive of him that he thinks he can chummily chat away to you about all of this and it won't hurt your feelings.

Or, cog, the op may need help to deal with the fact that, her dp has a perfectly legitimate and heathy past?