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can i get off this s***y rollercoaster now.

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whatisforteamum · 08/08/2014 20:00

Only last yr i had a job i loved,with lovely colleagues and a change of scence and self respect.Today i forced myself to go in then ended up walking on eggshells.I posted on here this week about my new bully boy boss.No one else has a problem with me except him.The take over included different hours,menus and him !!
At home my once placid DH has been getting more verbally aggressive for over a yr then worse since his heart attack and all the meds he takes and is currently on antidepressants too.
Also i popped into my parents where i was reminded Dad has had another scan and sees his oncologist thurs for progress report on his incurable cancer.Mum was tellling me she spent some of her " funeral" money on dental treatment getting things done incase she needs more chemo ( she has incurable stage 4 cancer ovarian type).They have both done v well but know this will not last.
DH also decided this was the yr to take up golfing even when he knew when my holidays were booked so ive been stuck here 9 i can drive but not on motorways due to anxiety.
I have no idea what im posting for but if anyone has suggestions or just a hug i thank you in advance.

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thisisnow · 08/08/2014 20:24

Big hugs from me. Sounds like you've a lot on your plate. Hopefully someone with some sound advice will be along soon.

HumblePieMonster · 08/08/2014 22:05

Huge hugs from me. You have so much to cope with. Thanks

inneedofsomeclarity · 08/08/2014 22:22

Oh you poor love, I know there's nothing anyone can say to change what is happening but just wanted to send big hugs and support your way. I know what it is like to be repeatedly battered by life all at once and you just end up thinking 'what now? How much more can I take?'. Lots of hugs and hand-holding.
xx

whatisforteamum · 09/08/2014 08:08

Thank you ladies :) i just feel like im living in a surreal world with no time to come up for air.Each day i wake up positive and put on nice clothes and head off to work but by the evening or weekend i feel drained or just lonely.It never occurred to me all 3 of my nearest relatives would be very ill at the same time.Cancer is so cruel and they have done well to have major surgery and chemo (both at the same time).Maybe i shouldve made more effort to make friends and not be at work so much .That is my plan for this year.:)

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ROUNDandROUNDINCIRCILESMORETHA · 09/08/2014 17:08

Sorry to hear what you are going through.Regarding your boss i think try not to show he is bothering you. men like to bully women as we know from reading posts on here and its sad... Perhaps can you talk with your hr department? Sending hugs xxx

whatisforteamum · 09/08/2014 17:28

i agree that is what i was doing as im pretty sure he thinks if he pushes enough i will leave.The good thing is all my work colleagues treat me with respect and have noticed he singles me out.He probably hates the fact ive been there over 10 yrs.TBH it is all i need as i have stress coming from all angles..oh well that is life i guess :)

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whatisforteamum · 14/08/2014 21:41

Well we got the dreaded news Dads aggressive cancer is back and its spread to his bladder and lymph nodes.I can only hope DH will be kind but after last weekend and telling me to shut the f*k up when i went on about going out i can only keep my fingers crossed.Daughter got quite bad A s level results too. I feel quite numb and only hope Mums cancer is not back when she goes to the onco,

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