Lipstick on your collar - do people really smell perfume on their cheating H?

[PittTheYounger]

Watching Ray Donovan and the wife susses him through scent.
Does this really happen in real life, or is it just dramatic license?

What other little tells have led you to conclude all might not be well? ( rather than the norm of new pants and taking your phone into the loo!)

My DP 'smelt' aftershave that wasn't his on his ex Wife's clothes

My exh started taking a shower every time he came home, picking fault at everything I did, his phone often had no reception, large mobile bills, hiding phone, I suspected and confronted but always denied, until ow contacted me and told me everything. Moved on now but will never forget that raw pain.

I think you probably can smell someone else on your partner - my dp has commented before that I don't smell as I usually do when I've been hugging a male friend (totally innocently I'd like to point out).

my mate knew her cat had been playing away when HE smelled of someone else, so I suppose you all have a point!

yep we smell others handcream on our cat sometime. He goes next door for fuss

they are so disloyal

my ex started to use new words, which presumably were words his OW used (think youthful 'buzzwords' type )

did he do a LOSER sign while he was there?

My best friends partner was cheating on her. She knew this because there was lots of long blonde hair in his boxer shorts on several occasions

I once smelled another woman on an ex of mines pubes but immediately doubted myself and put it to one side. But yep, he was cheating. The bastard.

I think smell is the strongest of all the senses though. I remember when ds was little, getting upset when friends wearing perfume had held him because he came back smelling all wrong.

And apparently when I was little I'd tell people their houses smelled bad - I wasn't a brat! They just smelled different and therefore 'wrong'.

OH YES YES YES! I first suspected (now ex)H was shagging around when his shirt, put out to be washed, was smeared with makeup all down the front. He told me I was mad, imagining things, then said perhaps some woman had 'accidentally brushed up' against him in the squash club and inadvertently left the makeup ...! Hmmmm .... I knew he was up to something, especially when he then came home stinking of perfume.

Turned out he was screwing an Ow - my 'best friend'! What's more, she deliberately used to squirt perfume on him as he dropped her off after their assignations, so that I'd 'know'. Bloody effing bitch!

My dad actually did come home smelling of perfume.

He once even had lipstick on his collar. What an awful cliche I know, but he really did.

I've known a couple of girls who actually deliberately did things like moving the car seat, foot prints on the inside of the windscreen, make up on the shirt collar, lipstick on the boxers...

Was it just to try to cause trouble, or was it like a canine, peeing on each lamp post he walks past - leaving a mark?

I know someone who sprayed their perfume in their mm's car

And put their feet up on the dash to leave shoe prints

And left their sunglasses in the glove box

Me a few years ago, nasty, silly little bitch I was

Whoa spud are you after a roasting?!

Mine gave it away on so many levels I look back now and I'm amazed at my utter stupidity e.g. He had to stay out all night because a friend was suicidal. He stayed out because he was suicidal. The car was towed away outside the area (never got to the bottom of that one). His colleague tried to drunkenly kiss him in our house, when I was there, and he hid in bed. She followed. So many other things.

In my defence he also had me take him up and down and round the houses to mental health services (because, it turned out, I was so horrible and abusive I had made him ill) and I was suffering from PND myself (I found out later, after near-total disintegration).

The main tell was me hacking into his Facebook page and there it was.

Shit that's brought it all back.

My dad was having an affair years ago and came home with a tape of music he didn't normally listen to, it was the OW's fave tunes. He used to sit there listening to it with my mum knowing full well it was the OW's. He actually did a lot more than that, he made an absolute fool of my mum, arsehole that he is

A friend's oh rolled home 3.00ish, pretty drunk, couldn't get away- hellish day- non-stop meetings in the morning , business lunch, more meetings, settling new clients in their hotel, etc.etc., all the while dropping his clothes on the bedroom floor. Last thing off were his Y-fronts.

Which were on back to front

My DH had a black eye after a night out and a huge hangover.Cross with his self pitying on the sofa i quizzed him about his eye.Hours later he admitted a bloke hit him..why because he shagged this blokes girlfriend in the pub car park !!! Knocked me for 6 as he was the quite type or so i thought.He said we werent married but we were engaged and had bought a house the yr before.

Spud - I'd swear I know you, except I wasn't married when I was getting
presents accidentally left in my car :)

Hi. New to mumsnet - and what a start! I found this thread googling "lipstick on collar" because of the photo I'm attaching to this message. What do you think it is? Something to worry about? I could go on and on about our relationship, and about when he wore that shirt, but I'll stop there for now. thanks.

How does lipstick get om the collar anyway? Neck kissing?

Oops sorry wohm. Difficult to see, not sure sorry