My partner of 7 years is like Jekyll and Hyde. We have a beautiful 2 yr old DD and another due in November. The problem is I'm tired of his mood swings. The problems only really began since the pregnancy, and we're under a bit of financial pressure too.
He's also become only pleasant when he's had a 'herbal' cigarette, and gets really cranky otherwise. He doesn't smoke in the presence of DD, thank god.
He seems genuinely pleased we're having baby #2, but when he creates an argument it's almost as if he forgets I need a little tlc and no stress on the baby. I would love to chat calmly with him about our future together, but i know how it'll end (him saying "i'll never leave my kids, as that's what my dad did").
Yesterday was my birthday. The day started off ok, despite me getting no card from him (we agreed to not do presents as we're saving for the new baby). We went out for the day which was nice, but on the drive home he started yelling at me for not having paid a non urgent bill. It was totally out of the blue and I was like "can we not have this conversation in front of our daughter?"
He gave me the silent treatment all the way home. When we got home i burst into tears and he was like "oh why are you crying? You shouldn't cry on your birthday!". I could have punched him there and then.
He then said "oh do you mind if i go for a half hour nap?" at 7.30pm but he slept all the way til 8am this morning when i had to leave for work (he's a stay at home dad). So no birthday celebrations for me!!
I was so angry with him for ruining my evening and he was totally oblivious this morning and asked me cursingly "are you in a mood with me?" I left the house and burst into tears, again. It just all seemed so childishly trivial, yet made me feel so small.
I don't know what to do, this is the last straw for me in a long line of incidents, but i don't want to be a single mum as we live abroad and have no family nearby.
WWYD?