feeling confused

[coffee35]

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I feel confused. My DP of 8 months has just admitted to using Viagara practically every time we’ve DTD. He said he didn’t want to tell me earlier as he was afraid of my reaction. He approached the subject nervously when he told me last night.

When we DTD it’s good. DP is in his early 50’s and a lovely man.

Should I be concerned though that he is using it?(He says “problems” mean that he “has to”) Also,am I right to be shocked that it has taken 8 months to tell me?

Sometimes anxiety can cause problems. I suggest you make him feel at ease in the bedroom. Eventually with your support and him feeling more relaxed, he may not need to use Viagra.

It's not an easy thing for anyone to admit! I wouldn't worry, or get all hung up on the fact he didn't rush to tell you earlier. You'll get a load of LTB posts no doubt he kept quiet about this, what else is he keeping quiet about, etc but I can totally understand why he didn't tell you!

If he's lovely to you, and everything else is fine, I really would not stress.

Thanks little and *whats"

Thing is , I feel its going to ruin the spontaneity.Bit like Clint Eastwood's "Have you flossed tonight?"!

What happened when other people had this issue?

Why would you worry that it'll spoil the spontaneity? You haven't noticed in the past.

I feel sorry for him that he's had to pluck up courage to tell you.

He's in his 50s, and still wants to DTD. I'd call that a result.

coffee it is a very good sign that your dp has told you, it means that he trusts you enough to hold his feelings for him. In your shoes I would carry on as normal, being tactile and loving, no pressure to perform, just loving touches. With time he may be able to make-love/have sex without the need of medical intervention, but then again he may not. It is not a slight on his feelings for you, even if a man is overwhelmed by attraction with his partner he still can have difficulty in getting it up for prolonged periods.

Go with the flow and try to take the emphasis of penis penetration out of the equation, instead put emphasis on the closeness of loving touches.

Chin up and i am pleased that he felt that he could tell you.