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just caught my husband...

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BadMother2014 · 07/08/2014 08:41

Came down this morning after my husband joking he is going to sleep with another woman because our sex life has been awful.. opened the laptop to find he has been looking at escort sites. For what possible reason would he be looking at escort sites? He is laughing it off and thinks its funny

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theressomethingaboutmarie · 07/08/2014 09:56

I am stunned that a 'D'H would be pestering his wife for sex and complaining about the lack of it when she's had a miscarriage the previous week. What a heartless bastard.

MillyDots · 07/08/2014 10:28

He is being horribly cruel but what is the background to this OP? Did he not want children? Have you got children or are you trying. So sorry about your miscarriage .

kaykayblue · 07/08/2014 14:28

The real question is, why are you putting up with this behaviour?

His bag should be packed and his arse already on the street by now.

CoffeeTea103 · 07/08/2014 14:34

He's giving you grief when you've just lost a baby . Sorry op, he doesn't deserve you. Please think if this is the man you want to spend your future with. This is so far from normal.

heyday · 07/08/2014 14:41

Right now you have more than enough to deal with with the miscarriage.. I suggest that you get some counselling to help you deal with the loss.
You have to look after yourself now.
Your OH probably wants something to wank over but this should have been done in private and certainly not jest you over having sex elsewhere. He really is despicable to treat you like this and perhaps this shows the general state of your relationship.
You need someone to love and look after you right now and you should be grieving the loss of your baby together. I feel so very sad for you.

Saltedcaramel2014 · 07/08/2014 15:35

I'm sorry for your loss and also to hear that this is the behaviour you're having to deal with - rather than getting the support and kindness you deserve (in general - but particularly now). What he's done (and particularly the laughing off, in fact) is not ok. There are lots of decent men out there. He is showing himself to be very unworthy of your love.

RedRoom · 07/08/2014 16:35

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss. I'm appalled that he thinks this would be funny or appropriate in any circumstance. Given your miscarriage, it is about as insensitive and inappropriate as it comes. Is he usually more caring?

Elsmom · 08/08/2014 20:49

Get rid. Would he be happy with you checking the prices on the local gigalos?

Elsmom · 08/08/2014 20:52

Get rid. Would he be happy with you checking the prices on the local gigalos?

LiberalLibertines · 08/08/2014 20:55

Yep, the internet is filled with 'pictures' why go on an escort site?

1/ to book an escort

2/ to worry you into having sex with him

I'm so sorry he's saying like an utter entitled prick.

How are you coping with your loss?

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