Time to call it a day?

[betenoire2012]

My partner of 7 years is like Jekyll and Hyde. We have a beautiful 2 yr old DD and another due in November. The problem is I'm tired of his mood swings. He's also become only pleasant when he's had a 'herbal' cigarette, and gets really cranky otherwise. He doesn't smoke in the presence of DD, thank god.
Yesterday was my birthday. The day started off ok, despite me getting no card from him ( we agreed to not do presents as we're saving for the new baby). We went out for the day which was also nice, but on the drive home he started yelling at me for not having paid a non urgent bill that's outstanding. It was totally out of the blue and I was like "can we not have this conversation in front of our daughter?". He gave me the silent treatment all the way home. When we got home i burst into tears and he was like "oh why are you crying? You shouldn't cry on your birthday!". I could have punched him there and then. He then said "oh do you mind if i go for a half hour nap?" at 7.30pm but he slept all the way til 8am this morning when i had to leave for work (he's a stay at home dad). So no birthday celebrations for me!! I was so angry with him for ruining my evening and he was totally oblivious this morning and asked me cursingly "are you in a mood with me?" I left the house and burst into tears, again. I don't know what to do, this is the last straw for me in a long line of incidents, but i don't want to be a single mum as we live abroad and have no family nearby. Help!!

I think you have answered your own question - you said that this is the last straw in a long line of incidents.

You've mentioned that he is Jekyll and Hyde, has mood swings, is cranky if he hasn't had a funny fag, and yet you're having another baby with him?

You've got a fair amount on your plate already with a toddler and a baby on the way, and if he isn't pulling his weight in the relationship, then you need to discuss your future (calmly) and work out what it is you want from the future.

I know you said that you don't want to be a single mum and that you're abroad, but that doesn't mean that you have to stay in a relationship if you don't want to.

Thanks aylesburyduck. I should have said in my post that the problems only really began since the pregnancy. He seems genuinely pleased we're having #2, but when he creates an argument it's almost as if he forgets I need a little tlc and no stress on the baby. Would love to chat calmly with him, but i know how it'll end (him saying "i'll never leave my kids, as that's what my dad did").