I have posted about this before but in a different context.
I have a friend who I admire in many ways but about 10 years ago she went out with two of my ex boyfriends in quick succession. One of them really hurt and the other I didnt care about as he was a looser.
She is currently with another one of her friend's exes and has been for a long time and they have a kid together.
Part of me wonders why I stayed friends with her tbh but I guess it was an unhealthy atrachment.
Things are more complicated now that my dad and her mum are going out and shes a bit more in my face than ever.
I guess what im finding most hard is rhat she has it all: a massive house and a caring dp while im stil single. I often feel that if id been a bit more cut throat whilst involved in the dating scene then I would have a dp by now. She can be quite smug about ger situation when I just keep thinking " sloppy seconds".
I think she knows how she has behaved as she once told me shed " got away with it". But she hasnt as I dont trust her.
I have told my dad but he dosnt get it.
Im thinking of moving away tbh as I find tge whole
thing so annoying . Of course this has highlighted my problems with assertiveness and boundaries or rather lack of.