how to coparent with stbx

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Split with ex about seven months ago no regrets at all :-)
Problem is how do I deal with having him in the background if my life.

He has dd a couple of nights and thats fine but am worried as I am wanting to change her schoo, to nearer where I now live near my dad and brother. I do most of the school runs and want to move her now as she is only in yr 1.

He will kick up such a fuss when this happens and will threaten to apply for full custody . I know this is unlikley to happen but it puts the fear of god into me:-(
I have had depression in the past and he keeps on with the old nutter chestnut :-(

He is also being a total knob with re to me meeting anyone new sayin I have to introduce him!

Ive said my private life is just that.. and that I use my own judgement on who I meet.

The whole thing is just horrible I have a knot of anxiety in my stomach when he starts with these threats.
He was by far from a perfect dad or partner when I was with him I left him for several reasons, heavy drinking over years, lack of interest in family life, and verbal abuse that on occasions fell over into threats.

Of course I cant prove any of this:-( but the neighbours must have heard him shouting loads.. my older daughter wittnessed his crap behaviour but he could argue she is just siding with me:-(

Just want to get on with my life with as little contact as possible with him.. it goes without saying he is blocked on face book yet he asks me why it just feels so crap knowing he is there in the background with his nasty threats :-(
Anyone gone through similar or just have some coping strategies :-)

Just change your daughters school. I would. Also only contact via email or text. That way you have proof of his ridiculous demands. Don't give him headspace. He is out of your life and nothing to do with you.

No judge in the land is going to give him full custody based on what you have said.

Otherwise just ignore. Ignore. Ignore. He will eventually go away.

I'm not sure that quitelikely's advice is great. If your ex has PR he in theory has an equal say on things like education etc. far better to try to agree with him maybe via mediation? I'd be cautious against just changing schools, you need to appear to act completely reasonably at all times in case things do end up in court. If you have just moved schools without telling him he can argue that you've done it on a whim. I don't know, maybe try to speak with a solicitor.

Sorry also meant to say that whilst he may not get full residence ( as custody is now called) there is increasing movement by the courts towards shared residence so you need to consider whether this is something you would be prepared to accept if it came to court ( not saying for one second that would happen, but it is a possibility).

Thanks both:-)
Thing is even if I discuss this with him (moving schools) no way would he agree.
he would say I am trying to reduce contact for him and dd.. im not but it would be easier for me with re tomschool run and plus I want dd to make friend locally..
So ahh this puts me in a situation doesnt it !