Absent father and absent mothers!!

[Justsad1]

STBXH left me and our 13 year old son for a co worker he met on a course and moved in with her 6 weeks later. She is 16 years younger than him and has left her two small children with her ex to be with him. Our son is refusing to see him as he thinks what he has done is wrong. My question is what kind of person is she that she can live without her children? And why do I question how she can do this and do not question how he can live without seeing his? I want to believe they will not last and how can he be with a woman who can leave her children?

Let it go

Not your problem.

You'll eat yourself up thinking like this. Sorry - it's shit but more so for her children than yours.

You will never understand their actions because they fly in the face of decency if you like. You could assume that the father had access to money and better parenting skills than she does which might be her reasons for leaving. Or might her husband have thrown her out and said I'm keeping the kids.........

I guess you partner left due to lust or something crazy like that. Soon the guilt will register with her.

They deserve each other.

It's difficult but maybe it's for the best.Her children get to stay in their home with a consistent parent.It could be that he was main carer.Ultimatly while I would never ever leave my kids in the circumstances it's a self less act.She does not move her kids in with a stranger after leaving their father.People do strange things don't try to understand them focus on yourself and your son.The best revenge is a happy life without them. Small consolation to you but me and my children have lived through something similar.It was tremendously hard on the children with Dad trying to force happy families with new very young girlfriend It all ended in a horrible mess.Once the novelty wears off no doubt he will want his old life back and she will miss her children.Think long and hard about what you really want Don't be forced into a situation that is not right for you.Look after yourself and keep posting.Don t forget to protect your finances.

Women leave their children more than you think. My mother left me and my sister.

Dont think about her, her lack of morals. Love your children, be happy xx

Thanks Bessie I have an appointment with the lawyer tomorrow. Ex wants me to sign away alrights to his pension and he will leave me the house. I'm getting better it was a major shock to us as it came out of the blue.