Stressing!

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Hi, never posted here before. In a relationship, engaged. Went out at the weekend, spent some time dancing with some guys (along with some friends!) and ended up kissing one of them.

Didn't know him, still don't know his name/phone number or anything else that could make me want to get in touch with him.

DP and I lead pretty separate social lives, we don't go out together really. I've never done anything like this before. I'm not going to tell DP, I think that would only cause more hurt than it needs to. But I don't know how to make myself stop from doing something like this again.

At the time, I enjoyed it, I enjoyed the thrill and how desirable it made me feel, a feeling that I obviously want to feel more of. I generally do act 'single' when I'm out but never take it this far. Before this happened I had no problems with DP, didn't worry about my relationship. This happened and I'm all confused.

Any help from anyone? Or been in similar situation? I already feel bad so don't want told off!

When you get engaged, you presumably, commit yourself to a marriage in the future. It is an agreement entered into willingly and without coercion by you. From what you have written, I think you have either lost sight of the commitment you have made to your Fiancée or don't really care. It maybe that you actually are not ready for marriage and need to be free and should dis -engage yourself and finish spreading your wild oats.
Making an agreement to spend your life with someone and subsequently possibly raise children together does not wholly consist of carefree fun.

I've done this before when drunk - no excuses though - and told my husband. Not proud of it and stopped socializing with certain friends where it was the norm. Been married 18 years this summer and this happened 11 years ago.

I am not justifying kissing someone when in a relationship but you need to put it in perspective and figure out if you want to get married.

I had a friend who slept with a work colleague and I went to her wedding to someone else a month later. She was the person I stopped socializing with.

Hi op

You did it you loved it and it made you feel desirable, is this something you are no longer getting from your fiancé ?

It sounds like from your post that there is a lot missing from your current relationship, because you go out but not together and when you do you act single.

Sounds like your sleep walking in to marriage but it's not what you really want. Might be time for a serious and heartfelt re think about how you really feel about your fiancé.