Would you date a guy who described himself as 'mysterious''?

[Scarletohello]

So I've been chatting to a guy online who initially seemed very nice but I'm realising that trying to get information about him is like trying to get blood out of a stone. I asked him how his friends would describe him and he said " loyal...intelligent...mysterious"

I then asked him what his unique talents are and he replied,

"I'm very modest about myself, so I prefer you to find them out yourself...
But if you insist, you may be able to excavate a few from my sealed lips...??"

I'm getting a bit fed up with this now as it's impossible to get to know someone if they are evasive/enigmatic all the time.

And also it's one thing for a teenage girl to be mysterious but it's a bit odd in a fully grown man! Am starting to wonder what is behind this, low self esteem, shyness or is he trying to make himself look more interesting as he's actually really boring...?

Was this on a dating site? Can you report him as married, to the admin to save other women from his dickheadness?

It was Tinder so I guess anyone can go on there.

He says mysterious, I say tosser. IME, men who think they're mysterious are actually secretive and very, very boring.

well done you for asking the question outright.

Aha. Have now RTFT. Good thing you asked (and that "mysterious" didn't turn out to mean "won't answer a direct question".)

Was he embarassed when he admitted it? What a wanker

Sounds like a right dick, don't date anyone who describes themselves as 'mysterious'! Similarly, never date anyone who describes themselves as, wacky, zany, crazy or mad, they will inevitably bore you to death!

Or perhaps he didn't like the way you asked so openly, so gave you an answer he knew would make you run for the hills. I don't really think it was that though.

Maybe ask the next one how his wife would describe him

He wrote, 'I know, it's a shock isn't it?'

Wtf??

Have blocked him now so can't see any more of this bollocks.

Fuckwit. At least you know now and not several dates down the road!

'It's a shock, isn't it?'

what, that some poor woman is married to this tosser? yup, certainly is

Makes me wish there was a way to out these guys. A website like the ones for revenge porn IUKWIM

His friends would describe him as loyal. Really? Not to his wife clearly

That said I used to have a rule about not dating anyone who said "just ask" as it comes across as cba writing a profile. But my current dp who had that on his OD profile meant just that, he has nothing to hide if you want to know ask. And he is a bit lovely. So don't let one knobber put you off.

X post with your comment he's married.

Cheating knobber.

Good call on your part to ask outright. I have a friend who once unexpectedly called on her boyfriend, only to find he didn't even live in the house he said he did! Turned out to be married, this is not new but I guess internet dating makes it easier.

So is mysterious the code for married?

Well, Scarlet there is. We all FB like this fred, or start a new one with "Are you married to a 50-year old IT Architect? If so, he's on Tinder" and let that get viral.

Not at all evil, me. Nonooonoooo....

Flat no. How much of a fucking ego do you need to have to say that sort of stuff about yourself?

Maybe its a way of saying there's more about him you'd like to get to know. I thought my dh was 'mysterious' when i met him ;-)

Yes there was more about him that I would have liked to know. Like the fact that he was married.!!

What a prat. When I read the title I immediately thought that a person who described themselves as 'mysterious' would probably be the type to act like a dick or cheat because they're so 'tormented' and haunted by their deep self. Not surprised to see that he's married. He's trying to create some enigmatic persona to make himself seem more interesting.

A lot of the time stuff like this translates to 'I'm a big fat knob who needs some fancy excuses to cover up why I act like a twat.'

I'm a big fat knob who needs some fancy excuses to cover up why I act like a twat

upthe to be fair that might not have made a very good profile

I want to thank everyone for their replies as otherwise it would not have occurred to me to ask him outright if he was married. Now I know it has saved me wasting my time on an arsewipe. It really hadn't occurred to me! So, you lovely best of vipers have saved me from a world of pain.

all round!

Think I've had too much tonight. :)

*nest obvs. :)