When does it stop?

[missmeldrew]

Split from STBEXH over a year ago. Had loads of trouble, got kids and court is all on going. I have a new DP and have moved towns to get away from the crap.
He gets such a bee in his bonnet about things. Ordered to pay costs on the divorce recently and now Im hearing of people ringing round for my address, threats etc. Sick of it. When does it stop? Police wont do anything. To be fair I think they've had enough of my calls to them. Im just fed up of worrying and not being able to relax in my own home. Considered a non-molestaion order but whats the point, if he doesnt get to me, he will get to my DP and if he doesnt, he'll get someone else to, bit of a notorious family in the area.
Why cant he just accept things, move on?

Why cant he just accept things, move on?

Because he just won't, or will only do so in his own time.

Meanwhile, you might want to consider that non-molestation order. Yes, it's a drag to have more procedures, but since he won't stop and you can't make him, the law is there in this case to help you.

Sorry you have to go through this.

Will it protect my dp, me and my kids from both him and his cronies?
Police have a marker on our hose and we've had CCTV installed. I'm just tired and want to get on with our lives. I realise he's always going to be a part of our lives because of the dc but even then he uses them to get at me.

I'm really sorry to hear of your problems. I can imagine it is an awful experience. I echo GoatsDoRoam view, definitely consider a non-molestation order. Also, try and make a dairy of as and when these instances occur. It will stand you in a better stead.

I hope it all works out.

Thanks.
I've completed the forms for the non molestation order. However I'm concerned. I don't particularly have hard evidence. I've obv made calls to the police and SW is aware of what he's like. What will I need to show?
I'm also bothered that we have a child arrangement order going through court at the moment and it may look like I'm only doing it for that.
Can anyone give me the pros / cons of such an order? Considering filing tomorrow.

I think the big pro for the non molestation order is that it makes it easier for the police to deal with him. As long as it comes with a power of arrest then if he breaches the terms he can be arrested, and dealt with. I'd say its worth it just for that.