Dh has left again - I'm considering leaving him

[Doubtfuldaphne]

Dh has yet again run to his family with a bag packed because I've upset him. ( I asked if him and mil could discuss with me what I overheard last night because I heard my name mentioned)
On the way out he said 'look after the dc's'
I haven't got a choice really as I'm the only adult around here it seems!
I'm seriously considering ltb - he drinks alone nearly ever night, doesn't help with anything, he treats me as his mum not a wife.. We haven't even had sex for a year .. The only thing that worries me is the fact I'm a sahm and I don't have any money. What do I do? Where would I start?

change the locks, take the rest ofhis stuff t his mothers

how old are the kids?

I wish I could but I literally have no money to change locks and his mother is two hours away. He's taken the pushchair, the car seat, the computer..all the stuff I need.
I guess I could at least pack the rest of his stuff?
We have a three year old and I have a 14 yr old.

Have a look on the "entitled to" and "turn2us" websites and use their benefits calculators to see what help you may get if you are to formally separate.

Rather a lot depends on whether you are in rented accommodation or a mortgaged home.

With two children (how many do you have?) you can expect him to contribute 20% of his take-home pay in child support. This payment will not affect your benefits entitlement. Not sure if it affects how much you can expect in LHA (Local Housing Allowance) if you're in rented.

What a wanker taking the pushchair and car seat!

You need to get yourself to a family solicitor for a free 30 min consultation and see what options you have.

Tosser- taking the kids things. See a solicitor and make the decision final.

So he has taken away your ability to transport your children, and gone?!
Sounds controlling ..

He runs away whenever you have an argument? To his mummy? I think your fears of being a solo parent have already been realised - there is only one adult in your relationship, you might even find it easier once it's official and he's out.

Agree that you need to see a solicitor. Sorry you're going through this.

Please try to leave this man, he tells you to take care of the dc but takes the safety equipment with him
You don't deserve to be treated like this, and your kids don't need to be as well.

And he has taken away any access to money too?

Do you work?

Sounds like giving him the push would free you of one burden you don't need...

We are in rented accommodation. I'm stuck in the middle of nowhere and don't drive too! I think seeing a solicitor is my only option now.

Yes, get rid of this man as soon as possible. He is abusive and controlling. The fact that he has trapped you in the house by taking away the car seat and leaving you penniless makes it clear that this is about abuse and control.
As a single parent, you would get benefits and he would be legally obliged to pay you maintenance for the DC. If you want to stay where you are living at present you might be able to get him thrown off the tenancy; if you'd rather move elsewhere that's up to you.

Wow. What a dickhead. Have you checked whether you can get housing benefit to cover your rent if he stays gone?

Our rent is above the rate they pay but only by £100. We've only been here a year and have no money to move. He'd probably live with his sister who has a large house
I'm really worrying about dd. this has happened before and he tried to take her to his sisters. I know he's her dad but he is very irresponsible and scatty, would I be able to stop him doing this? I don't mean take dd for good by the way but overnight stays I would really worry about her safety.