Hi, I have messaged before about my husbands abusive nature to me and the children. Right now I'm so sad I can't even explain it in words, I feel so hopeless. I was going to file for divorce at the end of last week then Saturday I receive a petition from him that he filed on Wednesday (30th). I met with him for our son that morning (whilst the papers were being filed!!) I just can't believe it looking back, he was a mix of nice and nasty, the indirect comments which stab you in the back and the heart!! 
He is taking them to jersey tomorrow night, so he told my daughter who told me at 5.30pm to make sure the suitcase was ready for the sunday!! not much notice, I'd packed most of the stuff but nonetheless I'd emailed him over a week ago saying it would be in the hallway tuesday evening. Well I have to pack the toiletries etc. On sunday when he bought my son back (daughter and I had a girly day) I was not there and the reason for this is that he hadn't said when he was bringing him home, the arrangement had been 10-7 but last week he said via email that now that they were on holiday he'll bring them back whenever the bedtime wasn't important so as he'd not said anything I presumed this was still the case. Obviously wrong, he called me up to have a go that I was not there to receive our son, where was I and where was the suitcase which he wanted to be ready, he ranted etc and wouldn't listen to a word so I put the phone down on him, I don't want to see him or ever hear his voice again ever ever ever I'm trying not to hate him as he doesn't deserve any feelings from me he is a useless abusive nasty piece of work and the reasons that he put on the petition are out of order and antagonistic. My solicitor advised me to put little so not to antagonise and then he wouldn't contest also that we would be sending his solicitor a copy to avoid a court hearing. However his solicitors just filed the papers without consulting us and went on and on about what I'd done wrong and how I was accusing him of all sorts that simply isn't true.
I'm beyond despair. I'll sort it out but it's really hard dealing with my feelings and the children but I'm going to miss them terribly until they return on 15th. 