Engagement, facebook and ex partner.

[Flutterbeee]

Hi everyone

I just got engaged to my partner; there have been some comments congratulating us on facebook (we didnt put anything on facebook about it). My ex (of three years ago) found out via facebook (we are not facebook friends, so it must have been via someone else) and sent me a text message saying 'how nice it was to find out about my new engagement via facebook'. I guess they expected me to tell them before we got engaged. What are your thoughts? Should I respond, ignore?

Unless you are in the habit of exchanging texts, I would ignore.

If it were a recent breakup and a whirlwind romance I would say a common courtesy applies. Mind you - if you were with your ex for 20/30/40 years and have children in common - again a common courtesy applies, it would be manners to tell, especially if you know they harbour feeling for you.

Only you know whether you wish to engage with him on the subject.

You owe him nothing. Ignore.

Theres no kids involved, we were together for 3 years or so.

Ignore. Ignore. Ignore.

I would reply with "sorry who is this?".

Then ignore all further comms / block his number.

If you get any more shit report it to your network / the police.

What a tool you had a lucky escape from that one.

I'd ignore. Sounds like they still feel like they should be special to you for some reason.

Ex from three years' back? No need to keep him/her updated. So ignore. And congratulations btw.

Ignore and improve your privacy settings. Congratulations.

Absolutely none of his bee wax! Ignore ignore ignore and block his sorry arse.

Block him on FB and make sure your privacy is set to the highest level there too so only your friends can see stuff. You can hide your friends list, likes, groups and everything if you want to.

In which case I would ignore.

three years ago?!

Ignore his message! He's not your fb friend! The FACT that you're engaged is out there, you didn't bring it to his attention. It's just that it's not a secret and he heard about it.

I am the type who would reply with a "Thank you for your congratulations" then block him.

Oh dear. He's a tool from sounds of things.

Definitely ignore him, block him and have a look at your privacy settings but it sounds as if a mutual acquaintance has passed on your news to him if you didn't announce it on FB in the first place.

Congratulations on the engagement

I got married and had three kids without ever feeling the need to tell my ex husband about it.

Ignore him. Pratt.

thanks all, most helpful. I'll not text her back.

I would let this one slide. Next message I received would get the ' please do not contact me ever again or I will be forced to report it to the police.'

'how nice it was to find out about my new engagement via facebook'.

I'd reply 'no problem.'

'How nice it is when exes remind us why they're exes'

Wow, there's someone who thinks they are terribly important. I'd be tempted by the 'Thanks for the congratulations!' and then block/cut off.

My ex did the same. Made a huge song and dance to our mutual friends (in RL) about what a horrific bitch i was and how it proved what suffering he had endured over the years we were together. For years he looked for anything, ANYTHING to attack me with. Apparently he was at a festival I was at (?) and I didn't acknowledge him. It was "yet another example of your abrupt, throwaway attitude."

All you can do is ignore, but it is the biggest mind fuck, to be accused of a lack os common decency, I agree.