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DW and I have been together for 5 years, married for 3. We have a 3 month old baby. We have had sex twice since we got married. I am still as much in love with her as I ever have been. Even more so since she gave birth but the feeling doesn't seem to be reciprocated.

She says she loves me but barely even touches me any more. The closest I get to a kiss is a quick peck when I leave for work and just before bed. No snogging! I hate that word but it's the one that fits. I miss it. No hugs unless I instigate it. If I say to her that she never hugs or kisses any more she just replies with well come and give me one then. I'm sick of begging for affection. I just want to feel wanted.
I could put up with no sex (for a while) if only there was SOME sort of affection but I get nothing.
How do I fix this?

She is currently upstairs and I am crying on the sofa typing this after we had a stupid argument over nothing at 6pm and haven't spoken since. The baby will wake soon to be fed so I need to go up with his bottle soon.

I found sex was scary and painful for 6 months after I had my DC. It took me that long to truly relax about it.

But the real problem seems to be affection. How is the relationship otherwise, do you split everything, do you do more, does she do more?

Has she got pnd ?
Pushing you away/ignoring you could be a sign of depression/ low self worth?

Right. that makes sense. Sorry i assumed you were a dh not also a dw

Do you think she feels pressured? I dont necessarily mean by you but maybe in herself. - its just it happened to me after having my son and again after a miscarriage. Dh wasnt pressuring me but i didnt want it, which made me feel bad, so i was putting pressure on myself to do it, which made me want it less, which made me feel worse, which made me put more pressure on myself, which not only made me want sex less but made me hate cuddles abd kisses incase they were leading somewhere, etc. I was stuck in this never ending spiral. My counsellor told me to take sex firmly off the cards, to agree with dh that we would not have sex for a month but that cuddles and kisses were fine. This took the pressure off - i knew cuddles and kisses werent going anywhere and within a week i initiated more and we were having sex again (and rather a lot of it).

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I have no idea why my post from last night re posted when i looked at this thread again this morning. It makes no sense.

Have you asked her about it and what did she say?

Try telling her you want and need more physical connection....