Things with DH are not good and I don't know what to do..

[pandorainabottle]

Not an abusive relationship or anything like that.

Just....a miserable one.

He is just so miserable, difficult to live with.

Just...grumpy, and seems to hate me.

I've been away with the DC for a week and he just looks like he couldn't give the tiniest of shits about me when I got back.

He was sitting on the sofa eating a packet of sweets and I tried to kiss him. He just pulls back and says "I'm eating sweets", then carries on eating them.

He doesn't seem to give a shit about me.

What do I do? If it wasn't for the DC I wouldn't be with him.

I think youve answered your own question. If it wasnt for your DC you wouldnt be with him...

No child wants to grow up with unhappy parents. If you two are not solid, it doesnt create good grounds to raise a child.

If you cant work it out, get out.

I just keep thinking it's better for me to be here with the DC than have him alone with them and them having to deal with his moods and grumpiness all by themselves on contact visits.

I dont know how old your children are, but they will learn to make up their own minds about him.

Whats important is they have at least 1 happy parent, rather than 2 miserable ones.

You could arrange different types of contact. One option being he visits the family home to see them, so you are present too. Chances are, he may not be so miserable on his own with them, if the relationship is the cause of his moods. Its hard to know until you try.

Out of curiosity, have you spoken to him about this rejection and his mood?

Have you ever raised this sort of issue with him? I had a DH like this. He was also angry and controlling, and contributed zip to family life.

I swapped him for tax credits.