I have given all mumsnet advice to my friend after she realised her DH had been having an affair for 6 months. She suspects him, previous to this as having many one night stands and of using adult work to hire escorts etc.
She found out by snooping on his phone.
So far all mumsnet advice has been extremely helpful. Not filling in silences, letting him talk. However he is making out that her snooping is far worse than what he has really done and that she is "crazy" and he is going to get her locked up.
Obviously he has been MINIMIZING everything. About the ONS "it was just kissing random women in clubs when I was drunk." About the affair: "nothing physical has happened and she (the OW) is obsessed with me/stalking me."
My friend doesn't believe it and has asked him to leave. He has said absolutely no way, it is his house (my friend is not on the title deeds) and he will not leave the house. They have two DC's. He is accusing her of being a terrible
Mother telling him to leave and when she says that she will leave, he tells her (and the DC's) that she is abandoning them.
Today she tried to take the DCs with her and he physically pulled them back as she was trying to leave saying "your mother is trying to steal you."
He is saying what he has done is not that bad and he will not do it again so she just needs to calm down. She is furious and incredibly upset by what has happened and what he tells the DCs and displays to them every time she requests that one of them (her or DP) leaves.
What the hell is she supposed to do? She has been a SAHM for 7 years. He is a very high earner (£500k per year) owns his own company and several houses (based offshore - so not in england) He holds all the cards and she does not jointly own the house with him.
What are the options?