Doubting myself

[Happytosmile68]

In the midst of a painful divorce. Had to speak to ex tonight about daughter's birthday but why do I feel it's all my fault? I could never go out or do anything without him making a comment or it difficult, he never helped with the children, never did any domestic chores, his emails have been aggressive and unreasonable. Rationally, I know his behaviour was unacceptable so why can't I stop doubting myself? How do I break the cycle?

I think one thing to do is not to speak to him at night. That invades your quiet time when you can easily feel trapped in the house when DD is on bed and the walls can close in quickly!

DS has never know his dad so can't imagine how hard it is for you getting divorced. I've recently found meeting up with other single mums has helped. There are a couple now that we text each other when we feel vulnerable and I can also go to one friends house for chats when DD stays with my mum, which helps a lot to keep my sanity.

You'll probably find things are a lot easier with being by yourself and not being annoyed at all of the things your stbeh hasn't done and you can instead look at all of the things that you have done - all by yourself!

You can find a local single parents meet through Gingerbread and there's a group on Facebook for single mums in Bristol that meet regularly.

Hang on in there, it'll all be worth it (a good night's sleep often gives me some perspective too!)

Thank you :)