Anyone in love/ lust with someone they cannot have?

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Sucks dosnt it? I still have feelings for my old flame/ one who got away but he's moved away with his gf. I guess I have to keep reminding myself that he's an arse!

Yup. I'm married with child so obviously cannot have! Moving away from object of lust soon though so hoping that will solve the problem.

It's rubbish isn't it? I feel like I'm living a secondary life. Utter bollocks but feelings are weird!

Maybe you want them because you know that you can't have them; a sort of defence mechanism.

It's probably not a healthy thing to focus on though.

Yes. I focus on doing fun stuff and spending time with friends and bit by bit I am getting back to normal in the sense that I no longer sob my heart out every day. He is still the first thing I think about when I awaken and he is the last thing I think about when I go to sleep and that sleep is always broken. Every time an email arrives I still have that little hope that it's from him.

At this point in time I cannot imagine ever planning a life with someone else again though. It's a very strange feeling. Not a sad feeling but a matter of fact one.

I'm in love with Gabriel Macht and Patrick Adams from Suits and I know I can never have either!

Go out with him then Broken , ask him out.

minmooch I think celebrity crushes are allowed because we all accept that the chances are nothing will ever happen.

yes. silence is the way forward. i'm not good at that.

Yes, it is completely shit, no other word to describe it. Wish I could forget him as easily as I forget where my keys and important documents are.

Absoluetely, Burdock, why is life ever not that simple? To be able to forget what you want to, not what you need NOT to...

I bumped into his sister today. She was nice to me but now I feel sad. He is moving away.... To the same place I was hoping to move to in the future.

Yep, totally in love with someone who I broke up with. It really sucks big time. It didn't work, but I'm still in love.

Yup. Married and lusting after a man 15 years younger than me.

What is wrong with me ffs?

Foolishlady - I'm in exactly the same position. Married with a child but feelings for someone else. I'm also moving soon which will be good.
I'd managed to push the feelings down for a long time until a conversation with him recently made me think he felt the same. Now it's stuck in my head.
Can't wait to move but at the same time... Well, it's difficult isn't it?
Thanks for the thread OP, felt good to get that off my chest.

Labrys that's exactly my situation. I left him. It wasn't right when we were together but I am still so in love with him...

Before It's a bitch, isn't it? My heart still physically hurts.

It is a bitch. I left him nearly five months ago and I still ache for him every single day. He was back with his ex within four weeks of me leaving so I know my instincts were right that he was not as into me as I was into him. Time does heal but I'm getting bored waiting. This recovery is a long haul.

Yep, i have a partner and children and am in lust with another man. The worst part is that i know he feels the same way about me, I'm trying to avoid him now, too much temptation.

Magpie and vito, I don't know if the other man feels the same way, doubt it. I think it would be worse if he did!

I was but it's been a long journey and not now. Our casual 'relationship' lasted six months and he ended it as it was getting serious. I cried more tears getting over him then I did getting over my long-term ex. It's bloody hard and no one understood the pain. I've had to keep myself occupied like crazy.

If I see the odd pic of him my head goes funny and my heart kind of skips a beat and then I have a thump back to reality.

My problem now is I'm dating and I keep looking for the chemistry I had with the guy. So far seven dates and not a slither of the electric chemistry!

Oh my dear god. I thought I was the only one. I have thoughts of someone who I used to go to Uni with. We have been friends and flirted around the subject for a while. At Christmas I told him that I was thinking of him and there were plenty of flirty texts. I have not done anything with him . I am married with children . He makes me feel like I'm not old, like I'm present . I wouldn't do nothing as I have too much too lose not discounting the upset but he does make me feel alive.

Yes and I thought I was the only one too.