I have been with my partner for 10 years now and about a year or so into our relationship found out he had the genital herpes virus. (Was snooping and found hospital appointments). I was so angry and confronted him about it as I was in a sexual relationship with him. At the time we always used condoms but I still felt he should have told me. In the time I've been with him he's only had about 2 or 3 flare ups that I'm aware of and we abstained. Now my issue is he started having a problem with wearing a condom and wants oral sex but when I mention a condom for oral he's annoyed with it and says there's no point. We have a 4 yr old and expecting a second child but when we've had unprotected it's because I want to please him or we've both been carried away, not to forget trying for a child. Each time after unprotected I can't stop thinking about "what if I've now caught it". I know I may have it already but just lying dormant but the fact that I've not had symptoms yet, I'd like to think I'm negative. It's putting a strain on our sexual relationship as I'd like to just have sex too without having to worry about a condom or give him oral without worrying bout it. Things got steamy last nite and the minute I asked about a condom, we got into an argument and it ended there. And this man knows I'm having his baby! Is anyone else experiencing this. He says I can't catch it in between outbreaks but when I researched it says you can!! Highly frustrated by this selfish idiot right now. Sorry a bit long