was this mean or am I over sensitive

[wiifitaddict1]

Relationship with dh far ffrom perfect at moment. not going to go into it all now but just want to cover one theme.
so dh has referred to me before as being like hoarder next door. yes I own a fair few books and have some mags awaiting reading and have stickpiled toiletries a little.. dh has every single football program and alll his childhood and well adulthood Lego so I would say we are pretty even. he has loads of books too.
so we are fairly equal. anyway last night the charging lead on my tablet broke. I need it for work so quickly ordered another one. he basically said have you thrown it away and did you throw the last one away. implying that I would keep broken stuff as I am such a hoarder. well no I threw previous one awah and was about to throw that one.
was I wrong to be abit put out by this.

TBH I wouldn't be offended by this comment, it seems a trivial thing to be upset about. However I am assuming though that this incident is only a small part of a much bigger picture. Sometimes when a situation is bad it can take a tiny thing to trigger it all off.

It seems really petty so I am assuming the key thing here is that as you say your relationship is quite bad atm? And little things are getting piled onto one another and forming one great big thing?

I think that anyone who has a whole load of crap has no place telling anyone else about their whole load of crap, so until he bins his, he needs to stfu about yours.

But I get the feeling this is really more about the drip drip drip effect? Here we go again, he's on at me AGAIN sort of thing.

Is it mean for someone to to ask you have you thrown something away - no.

Is it mean for someone to ask did you throw something else away - no

Is it mean for someone to go on and on and on at you over trivia until you feel defensive and criticised and interpret every comment and remark as a dig at you - yes.

He asked if you had thrown your broken charger away? LTB!

As a one off it's nothing to worry about really - just tell him he can talk with his stockpile of Lego - but in your "far from perfect" state right now it could be a bigger deal. What else is happening between the two of you?

just feeling unsupported really. I run a small business sporadically. he is main wage earner. he thinks I sit on my arse all day whilst he is out earning. so he can therefore sit on his arse all evening.
we have 3 dc. 2 primary aged and a toddler who still wakes at night. I do all care for toddler.
he barely manages to bring a cup into kitchen.
he also nmade it clear glhe didn't want dc3.
sometumes I feel he expects everything to br the same for him and expects me to deal with extra workload.
almost as if he is punishing me.

it also was said in what I felt to be a sneery voice.

I think you're a bit over sensitive but that's probably due to everything else that's going on in your relationship.