keeping each other happy (and not necessarily with sex)

[MummyPig]

Daddypig and I are going to try to do one nice thing for each other every day - nothing huge, just something to make the other person smile.
I remember that dp used to leave notes (written ones, not money ) in my books or in odd places for me to find. He doesn't do that so much anymore, so I might ask him to start again. He sometimes comes home with flowers, and I've stopped getting suspicious and started to enjoy them instead Occasionally (very occasionally) I might give him a foot massage after the kids have gone to bed.
Any other ideas...little gestures you used to appreciate, or things your partner still does for you that lift the fog from an awful day?

i havent got any ideas at the mo as its late and im brain dead but just wanted to say that sounds like a really nice idea

I used to leave little notes with his sandwiches every morning. Surprise dinner out - babysitter booked and send cryptic message for him to meet you somewhere special- this is obviously not something for every month though. Just a stay at home candlelit dinner's good too. Will keep thinking.

The main thing my dh does is let me know he's always on my side. Whatever happens, I know he utterly supports me and wants to make me happy. He does sweet little things too, like he'll notice if my phone needs charging and will just sort it out, he looks out for me. It really is the small but thoughtful stuff I love and I know dh appreciates, so I know if I said when we both got in, look, go and have a bath, I'll do all the dealing with the children and bedtime etc, that would make him happy. (He usually puts dd to bed) I sometimes unexpectedly make his lunch for him, he likes that.

packed lunch for work I mean btw, we all normally make our own.

My dh works in the states about 1 week in 4. I always used to hide a mars bar or something in his case, but must admit haven't done it for a while ...reading this thread makes me want to start doing something nice again .When kids little, was always appreciated to have them off to bed B4 he came home, get a little slinky number on, candles, nice shag by fire etc...not happening now that bedtimes 10pm for ds (sigh)