I have been dating someone for a couple months - lovers, not living together, spent a few "three day" dates and some days together (due to kids not spent a night together for a couple weeks)
I'd say I had and still have strong feelings - very attracted to him etc.
But I think he has controlling tendencies?
Light at the moment, but things like my appearance (although he's very complimentary, he's hinted strongly at buying me clothes without checking with me first - he's older than me and our financial positions are very different)
There is one thing he does (not sexual) which is quite intrusive to me, and which I'm sensitive about due to previous abusive relationship. But he'll just go and on about it even if I'm saying I feel uncomfortable? And sort of use phrases like "why won't you do it for MEEEEEEEEEEE!" or claiming I'm "stubborn" and "always want to get my own way" (utter bollocks, I'm very easy going) not wanting to participate in which triggers my red flags?
I haven't discussed previous/family abuse with him. This is another thing - it's like he seems to want "instant intimacy" with me telling him everything about my past. Not sexually, but it's like trying to rush me into "confession" even though I don't want to be that vulnerable just yet?
I sent an e-mail on Sunday stating this and that I didn't want to keep on seeing him for these reasons
(we haven't been communicating by phone as due to being very, very broke I've ceased using my PAYG phone for a while)
No reply. Should I just leave it? Argh. Part of me (yeah, you can guess which one) wants to spend another night together.