So thats it all done

[Allbymyselfagain]

Name changed as my past posts were full of so much hope for us. I'm feel sick.
Once again i am single. It's all over. Not been a great couple of years but i thought we had finally turned a corner and were working on our relationship and going to be happy again. But no tonight one wrong comment and its exploded.
Screaming row, in each other's faces, him daring me to hit him(where did that come from I've never hit anyone) raising his hand to me. And all the anger and accusations have been thrown at me again. Everything is my fault.
Weve had rows before but this time it's done. Thankfully not married and no kids but how do i separate my life from his. I'm in so much debt trying to keep our heads afloat I'm going to have to move in my with parents whilst i try sort this mess out.
Every relationship i have goes like this, they even last about the same amount of time, 4 years. It must be me im the common factor in all this.
Please tell me its going to be ok. Everyone else is asleep i cant call anyone.

Yep, he wants the money. From you. He sees you as a sift touch. Time to start getting angry.

Soft not sift

Ignore him...he is an adult and will need to take care of his own issues.

More importantly, how are you? Have you given any more thought to moving to your parents?!

And the emotional blackmail begins...

It's his own doing, don't give him any money. He can bog off.

Move back to your dps, sell lots of your furniture and make some money towards those debts, rather than putting stuff in storage. Hopefully with all the savings, you'll pay off your debts, and save some money.

Win. Win I say.

Dont worry I'm starting to get angry. This is his doing. Maybe now he will realise whos been paying for all his shit for the last two years. He has no concept of how much i have spent out keeping us afloat. I just unfortunately have a habit of picking these damaged, financially useless men! Need to work on that.

I've paid his share of the rent just because i dont want any thing bad on my credit report.

I'm off to my mums tonight to discuss the logistics of moving back in. (Bought flowers for my mum and chocolate for my dad already this morning) none of my stuff is worth anything, i literally sold all the good stuff and begged/bought the cheapest things i could get off eBay and freecycle to keep us going. He has offered me the tv which he bought and his surface tablet that I might need for work so I will ask my mum if she needs a second tv for the second living room shes planning on putting in (honestly my mum is a saint she will have me and my recently widowed auntie living with them)

I had a think last night and a sneaky look on myspareroom. It will be tight but he will be able to find something. And given hes been playing this woe is me card on his mum for years she will definately lend him the money. He'll be fine its just an adjustment not having to worry about him as well as me.

When's hes not around i can see him for who he really is. The way he speaks to people is disgusting, he has no respect for anyone or anything. He constantly takes stuff and breaks it, dumps things everywhere and expects everyone to pick up after him. I beginning to think he has some kind of personality disorder BUT as i read on another thread on here some people are just cunts.

Thanks for your continued support everyone. It is so helpful to be able to come on here and just ramble all my thoughts out

I'm so glad the scales have fallen from your eyes.
Keep that anger.
Bless your mum. Hopefully that will all work out fine.
You can pay off your debts, save and move on with your life.

If you really do 'pick 'em' then please consider doing the Freedom Programme on-line. Might open your eyes to lots of things you usually miss!