I've had a very strained relationship with my mother for the last 15 years for a number of reasons that I won't bore you with. We barely speak now - only when we need to - but have never really addressed the relationship breakdown.
From my perspective, she plays mind games, isn't always honest with information, doesn't show any enthusiasm for anything that I do/achieve (my graduation, my wedding, my ds, promotions at work etc etc) and really just doesn't act like my mother. I see other friends who have really strong relationships with their mums and it makes me realise how far away we are from this.
I have a younger sister who is aware of the difficulties we have and over the last few years, I've become more aware of how she is manipulating the situation to her benefit and coming out like the golden child. I think I've accepted that the relationship has truly broken down but having spent some time with my mother and sister over the last few months where I've felt ousted and ostracised, and they both showed little interest in my baby boy, I'm now wondering whether I need to do something to end all this agro. It's starting to really affecting my mood every time I see them or speak to them and I'm not sure I can take another 15 years of pretending that everything is ok when its so far from that its unbelievable.
Any advice? As a family, we're not great at facing up to things so unfortunately, it's not as easy as just saying something. I expect that if I do that, I'll never see them again and I'm not sure I'm completely ready to cut all ties with no way back. Thanks :-(