Is this ever justifiable

[Dexter2012]

First off to say no history of dv we are on the cusp of splitting- he is struggling with depression. The crux of the story is we were arguing he asked for space and I pushed it to the point that he flipped shouting and hitting and kicking objects around the kitchen. Saying why couldnt i have jst left it alone- i had to push- It passed very quickly I guess I was shocked- I am dogmatic and won't let things go. my question- is this type of thing ever justifiable.

You will told by many here that it is never justified but I think if you push someone and they ask you to stop and you keep on pushing then sometimes you will get an adverse reaction. Everyone has limits.

Not justifiable. Might be human. Good excuse to get rid. Warning of worse to come.

people have breaking points. you deliberately pushed and pushed until he broke, knowing he has depression (ergo MH issues). He would be better off without you. So yes he should get rid.

No, it's not really justifiable, but why did you have to push? Just to see if he would snap?

"shouting and hitting and kicking objects around the kitchen"

Was it you he was hitting, along with kicking objects around? Or was he hitting and kicking objects?

He wasn't hitting me just objects and getting angry. Thanks ourvye'' On reflection it is the only time he talks about how he's feeling and I truly know what we are dealing. Maybe your right franksaysno'

Its never justifiable to push someone until they break, especially when they have asked you for space.

I have been your DH. He pushed, provoked, stonewalled and denied after I had repeatedly asked him to give me space and leave for a few days. He point blank refused. I had nowhere to go as was not in my home country. So I trashed the living room and he called the police.
Not justifiable but if you completely refuse to listen to someone, they may just snap.
He needs space and does not deal with conflict in the same way as you.

I think pushing and pushing despite being asked to allow space is unjustifiable.

It is justifiable. I had an ex goad and goad and goad and goad me until I was crying and begging him to stop. He didn't until I threw a chopping board full of vegetables across the kitchen. I was absolutely going out of my mind with upset and he would not leave me alone, even though I asked and asked him to go away. I left him soon after. No one I know would ever say I was a violent person, but everyone has a point where they just cannot take another person's behaviour anymore.

If he asked for space, you should have accepted that. He asked for it for a reason, which was that he could feel his anger and frustration building.